3. Characteristic of the Youngest Child
The Youngest Child has at least one older sibling, so parents are experienced raising children by the time of his/her birth. They raise him/her while they work and take care of the first child. The youngest can never experience monopolizing his/her mother, and usually receives second-hand clothing and baby items from the older sibling. Parents and family members no longer make a big deal out of the arrival of a child. Thus, s/he receives much less attention and fewer gifts. From the start, parents can dedicate less time and energy to this child in comparison to the older child. If there are three or more children in the household, they can no longer afford financially to provide for the Youngest Child, so eventually his/her financial state will be worse. The first child tends to want the best things, but the Youngest Child usually feels very happy when receiving something from his/her parents, even if it is ridiculously trivial.
The Youngest Child is often said to be shrewd. S/he grows up watching the older siblings and can observe what makes their parents happy or annoyed. On the other hand, s/he is very cautious and timid, and this disposition itself caused him/her to be born as the youngest. S/he is supposed to be protected and pampered by the whole family. The general definition of love is receiving protection and care, so we can say that “protection is love.” Thus, the Youngest Child can obtain “love.” S/he receives less care and attention initially, but the attention of his/her parents will increase little by little as s/he grows older. That is because his/her mother can spend more time and attention to take care of the Youngest Child as the older siblings become independent. Thus, the Youngest Child is the only child who can get increase his/her mother’s care. S/he enjoys learning from the older siblings who are ahead of him/her. S/he is less resistant to receiving guidance or copying others. On the other hand, s/he always feels inferior to the older siblings. That feeling makes him/her very competitive, and make him/her possess a strong aspiration to improve.
Sometimes the older siblings suppress and force him/her to behave like as a servant. This is the cost of the love (protection) that s/he gets. In order to be loved (protected,) s/he needs to be observant of other family members, and curry favor with them. This is another cost of love. Thus, s/he becomes interested in people. The image of the Youngest Child is that of “an eternal student.” S/he has an inclination to learn forever. S/he always feels unconfident and feels like s/he can never win. This feeling is also the cost of receiving “protection.”
A: S/he tends to be dependent and needy for protection.
B: S/he is timid, feeling unstable in a leadership position.
C: S/he is emotional, considerate to others, sympathetic with others.
D: S/he tends to curry favor with others, and often uses humore.
E: S/he is interested in learning, being guided and has great aspirations.
F: S/he becomes flustered because there is always something overwhelming him/her. S/he has low self-estimateem.
G: S/he avoids taking responsibility alone. S/he takes action only when guided or instructed.
H: S/he is self-assertive in a selfish manner.
I: Due to low self-esteem, s/he tends to settle for her/his second choice.