You Will Experience the Same Events All the Time

Chapter 4: Influence of Inner Child

Suppose that you had an event in your childhood that hurt your feelings. It could be that you felt your parents treated your siblings better than you, or that your parents yelled at you unfairly. That event might have occurred only once, but you have repeated and replayed it in your mind, which makes it seem like it occurred many times in reality (as memories are fabricated). It occurred a long time ago and was already over, but your mind perceives as if it is still ongoing. Thus, an event created a small trauma.

Because of this trauma, you eventually start thinking that people around you will cause you emotional pain just like you believe your parents did, by projecting your parents onto these people. You will perceive your future in this manner. As this goes on for a while, this thought will emerge in reality, and something that hurts you will happen to you. This provokes an emotional outburst in you and you will feel that your claim that “you are hurt by somebody” is vindicated.

Once you fall into this pattern of thinking, you’ll experience the same events all the time.
You feel that people always hurt you whatever you do. You end up being immersed by negative emotions such as anger, resentment and sadness. This situation makes you feel that nothing is going well in life, and in turn you lose motivation or get sick from the stress and negative emotions. You may become unable to articulate yourself and unable to develop your abilities.

Those who have this symptom on an extreme level, usually exhibit dissatisfaction and anger over trivial things. They tend to complain and whine often, be disorganized, or constantly curry favor with other people. This in turn causes them to be lazy, irresponsible, make excuses without apology, and feel guilty and languish; these behaviors and attitudes drive them into conflict with others and into the vicious cycle of the negativity. Eventually this situation leads them to experience obsessions, phobias, and addictions. Energy is spent and wasted on negative thoughts, not on something productive and positive. In this way, the mind stops growing.

As illustrated above, Inner Child creates various emotions such as anger, sadness, loneliness, and different obsessions in our daily lives.

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We Had No Definition of Love in Our Childhood

Chapter 3: You Cannot Recognize What You Do Not Have in Yourselves

We hear some people say that they wanted their parents to love them but they were not loved. What is the “love” that those people mentioned?

You began recognizing your parents in the beginning of your life when your brain barely started functioning, and it was still very immature. If you considered your parents as immature, it signified that your mind was young and immature. You cannot recognize what you do not have in your cognitive system. You recognize only things for which you have definition.

Assume you find a token for a carnival game on a street. It has no meaning and no value for you, so you will ignore it. But it could be a priceless old coin while you just thought it was a carnival token. It is too late to realize its value after passing. Similarly, actions and thoughts of which you have no definitions in your mind cannot be recognized. When you were a baby, you thought of only yourself. You would not take care of other people when you were tired. You did not work for money and think of spending it for somebody else. Thus, you could not recognize that it was your parents’ love when your mother took care of you despite her fatigue and your father worked and earned money to spend most of it for you. You could not recognize the form of their love, so you ignored it.

When somebody says that his parents had no love, it actually means that he had no love as a child, and consequently he couldn’t project love onto his parents. If the present he, as an adult, still claims his parents have no love, that implies he still doesn’t have enough love to project onto them. Every person defines love differently. As children, though, we had no definition of love. We only experienced comfort and discomfort. Those who claim they needed to be loved didn’t think about love in their childhood. They defined discomfort as lack of parental love after they had grown up and become a little cunning. By re-examining the situation, they will find out that they just wanted their parents to do whatever they wished, rather than wanting their parents’ love.

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We Are Using Two Parts of Brain

Chapter 2: How Inner Child Perceives

Imagine that your male coworker told you (a woman) what happened over the weekend during the lunch break at work. He said, “Yesterday I took my daughter to the amusement park. She was so excited, but started whining when it was time to leave. She squatted and would not walk. So I had to raise my voice and finally tap her butt to make her stand up, and had to carry her along with heavy luggage because, you know, I had to come to work today. I was so exhausted.” You would sympathize with him, and would say, “That must have been tough. She spoiled your day off,” understanding your coworker’s disappointment. And you would add, “Well, you are very nice to your daughter. You do love her. My parents weren’t that nice. I remember that a long time ago my dad took me to the amusement park and that suddenly I got spanked even though I did not do anything.”

Let’s look at how the mind operates. When you listen to your coworker, you use you adult and mature mind, and make judgments with it. The adult mind allows you to see that he loves his daughter and spent his money and his day off taking her to an amusement park to make her happy. You also completely understood that the child spoiled all his kindness by whining and acting inconsiderately, and that she hurt her father deeply. However, when you recall and talk about your own similar experience from childhood, you apply the immature, child mind without noticing. It is revealed that you still have no idea how much you hurt your father’s feelings and disappointed him as a child.
As in the example, you will face some trouble because you still judge your parents with your immature, child mind. When you become an adult, the way you perceive your parents will transform to match how you perceive society, politicians, and the president of your work place. If you are dissatisfied with these people, your immature mind will automatically react to them. That makes you preoccupied with unhappy circumstances, and it will cause you problems at work. If you get angry with politicians or feel that society is not functioning well, or you dislike the president of your company, it means that you still have misconceptions and misunderstandings about your parents. You need to take a close look and reassess your parents with your mature, adult mind. When you have modified your mind, you will see your future circumstances changing gradually. That is because “your thoughts create your reality, 100%.”

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What Is Inner Child in Fractal Psychology?

Basic Lecture 2: What is Inner Child

Preparatory Worksheet

1. What kinds of problems would you experience when using a computer with an old operating system?

2. How old were your mother and father when you were born?

3. List situations or circumstances in your childhood when you felt being loved by your parents. Examples: When they hugged you; when they bought you a toy.

4. List things that irritate or anger you often in daily life, including really minor things.

5. Did you think that you had been better than your mother or father (or had not been as bad as your parents) in certain aspects? If any, list them.

a. Things better than your mother:
b. Things better than your father:

6. Answer the following questions.

A. Fill in the blanks in the following questions:
“Parents should do (      ) for children.”
“I wished that my parents would have (    ) for me. “

B. Visualize a childhood scene where your family is watching TV after dinner. Who has the control to choose the channels?

C. Imagine your parents and you (age 6) are at the toy store, and they about to buy a toy for you.
Who is choosing what to purchase? Your father, your mother, or yourself?

7. Answer the following questions. Do not give too much thought in answering. The maximum number is 100.
Q1) When you were in middle school, you were scolded by your mother. She said that you
were very self-centered. How much did you think she understood you?
(     )%
Q2) When you heard your mom saying the above, you thought that she was really short-tempered. How much do you think you understood her?                                                                          (       )%

8. What is your definition of “love?”
To love somebody is to (                        .)

9. Please refer to your answer(s) to the question 3 on page 21. How often did your parents do what you had wished that they would do? How many times? Occasionally?

10. What are the benefits or rewards, if any, if you get seriously sick or in an accident?

The Past Exists at the Present Time

Chapter 9: Time Moves From the Present to the Past and the Future

Somebody said, “I did not have many complaints about my parents while growing up, but I realized as an adult that I could not do much in society. My parents haven’t taught me anything at all. Isn’t that terrible of them?”

Initially, she considered that her parents were great parents. However, she wanted to put blame on somebody else for her present incompetence, so she reasoned that they have taught her nothing. Then she started to see that her parents were actually bad. In this case, she should have made more of an effort in learning and building skills rather than making excuses. This admission would be shameful instead, and would take too much effort for her, so she blames the laziness of her parents and escapes from her responsibilities and obligations.

As you can see from the above example, your intentions have much to do with how you perceive your reality. This example shows that the current intention changed the meaning of past events. It illustrates that time does not flow from the past to the present in a linear-fashion. The present is not a result of a cause in the past.You may say that you cannot do anything about your current situations or reality because of some past events or karma, but you are simply making excuses because you do not want to be responsible and accountable for your present reality.

In the above example, a few decades separate the past event and the present intention. Yet, something that happened just now becomes immediately part of the past, and is interpreted by your present intention when you experience it. With different intentions, an event that was considered a negative may turn into a positive.

After all, the past only exists in your consciousness at the present time. Facts do not exist at all, and the past is remembered based on how you interpret it at the present time.
Nobody memorizes every single thing in his/her past. We only memorize part of an event by intentionally choosing what we want to memorize. Even if a person memorizes his parents as abusive, they may have been nice ninety-eight percent of the time and abusive only two percent of the time. He may have chosen to memorize the two percent and replayed the scene over and over in his mind. He had an intention in the past that served as criteria of what to memorize, but that intention still remains in the current him. How we interpret the past is determined by the present.

His past will change drastically if he reviews it, and concludes that the two percent of his memories of abuse was actually discipline for his selfish actions by his parents, and the other ninety-eight percent of his memories that he ignored are their true love. Thus, the TAW program helps you to rewrite your past considerably.

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Memories Are Not Facts

Chapter 8: Memories Are Fabricated

We learned in Lesson 6 that thinking is the same as taking action. If you accept it, can you say for sure that your brain could differentiate real experiences from mere imaginations or fantasies? You may say, “Yes, I can. Everyone can do it too.” However, the answer is actually, “No.”

The below example illustrates what I mean: there is a mother who reads to her child almost every night. “One day, I was too tired so I was about to skip reading. My son then said ‘Mom, you always skip reading.’ I was surprised, as I seldom go to bed without reading to him. This made me realize how children perceive negative events in an exaggerated manner.”

Children indeed tend to perceive what happen to them in this fashion. They cannot recognize what they regard as normal but strongly remember what is not. Thus, the boy only remembers the times when his mother didn’t read to him. Those few events left stronger impressions in him and are repeatedly recalled in his mind. The more frequently the events are remembered, the more they become intensified. Consequently the boy ends up thinking this happened “all the time”.

Also, you often hear people say: “My parents ignored me all the time when I was a child, “My dad hit me a lot when I was young,” “As a child, I was crying all the time,” and so forth. You must be skeptical if those statements are really true. Ask them what details they actually can recall on these occasions. Usually, it is the case that they can only remember just one or a couple of times the event happened in their lives of thirty-plus years. Yet, they would tell you that this ALWAYS happened. What occurs is that their imagination/fantasy has constructed and expanded what happened to build the memories as they have now.

By the same token, whatever good deeds you imagined doing are repeated in your mind, and the repetitions make you feel like you had always been doing them actually.
1. “I always cared about my mom.” (Imagination/Fantasy)
2. “I always helped my mom with chores.” (Occasional action and imagination/fantasy)
3. “I always took care of my younger brother.” (Forgetting about having bullied him much more than taking care of him)
4. “My dad was always asleep at home.” (This actually happened once a week.)

You need to be careful especially with case 1, a memory created by imagination/fantasy. You are aware of your own imagination/fantasy and believe in your mind that you did care about your mom for real. But you fail to notice the thoughtfulness of others because it is invisible and unrecognizable to you.

Thus, your memories of your own good conduct become inflated by imagination/fantasy, while you do not do the same for the good behavior of others. Bad actions by others get magnified by your imagination/fantasy in your mind and are remembered that way. Then, how reliable is your memory?

I have shown you how memories can be constructed by your own intention. The basis of your life is rooted in your childhood, but it consists of your own imagination and fantasies to a large degree. This means that you can manipulate and change most of the root since you are the one who created it.

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Reverse the Direction of the Time Axis

Chapter 7: Your Thoughts Precede Your Parents

TAW theory states that your thoughts come before your reality and there is no exception to this rule. Then, what about parents? In conventional psychology, the time axis always points from your parents to you. This only allows you to go as far as forgiving your parents when you have a problem with them, within the domain of traditional psychology. Conventional belief is that you cannot choose your parents and they must exist before you for you to be born. If you are dissatisfied with and resent your parents, all you can do is to forgive their immaturity to remove the resentment.

But this defies TAW theory; how can you say that your thoughts create your reality when you feel like you have no control over the choice of parents. In a way, it is arrogant to say that you forgive them for their immaturity (by regarding yourself superior than them). It is also pretentious and even tragic to sympathize with your parents for your grandparents’ immaturity.
There is no second of time when your thoughts do not manifest in your reality. You may say, “My parents weren’t mature,” and “They weren’t bad. My grandparents are the one to blame.” However, this kind of thinking and these excuses make you as a victim in your own life. It asserts that your birth, which is the very root of your life, has nothing to do with your thoughts. This obscures the law that thoughts create reality. It is necessary to re-grasp the consciousness you had at the start of your life in order to live a full life according to the law.

In TAW theory, the origin of life is your thoughts. Therefore, it is necessary to reverse the direction and perception of the time axis, moving now from you to your parents. It is your thoughts, the origin, that have created your parents. The immaturity of your parents is merely a reflection of the immaturity of your thoughts at the beginning of your consciousness. Don’t you agree that freedom in the truest form is the ability to attribute everything to oneself and be self-contented?

Independence of spirit and mind is true freedom. In order to achieve that, it helps to take a new look at the family relationships in your childhood since it is the basis of your life. This gives you clues to recognize that you have been creating your life exactly according to your wishes and thoughts.

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Why do people try to become poor?

Chapter 5:

1 % of Thoughts in Surface Conscious might be Enormous in Deep Conscious.

The deep conscious is enormous in quantity. It has different layers of depth. Many people think that one could reach the deepest part of the subconscious by meditation or hypnosis. Yet, the level of the depth touched by meditation is not as deep as the level that can be detected by Fractal psychological methods. When you go into your deep conscious with the guidance of your surface conscious, you will be limited by your surface conscious.

Let’s say that your whole consciousness is an ocean. Meditation and hypnosis is like diving without any gear, so one cannot go too deep (You can go until the level 1 of the deep conscious in the Illustration 2). In order to detect the deeper deep conscious, the analysis of your current reality is a quicker and precise way, because the reality is results of your compounded thoughts. The deepest part of your deep conscious has appeared as your surroundings (at the level of the deep conscious 3 of the Illustration 2).

You may hardly feel the thoughts in your deep conscious with your current surface conscious. However, as you have already learned, the fact that you hardly feel them doesn’t mean that those thoughts don’t exist. In the above ocean analogy, when you find one deep sea fish on the surface, there might be a whole bunch of them in the deep sea.

It is usually the case that when you are frustrated in life, your present reality does not match with your current conscious thoughts. When your thoughts in the surface conscious match with your thoughts in the deep conscious, you feel things are going well and you do not perceive any problems. Your current situation is taken for granted and you don’t think of it. But if, one is in debt despite his wish to make lots of money, for example, that would make him wonder why this has happened and take this situation as problematic.

In this case, if he takes a look into his deep mind, he might find less than one percent of negative thoughts, that nobody acknowledges him despite of all his efforts. If there is one percent of those negative thoughts in the surface conscious, then there exists much more of the same in the level of the deep conscious. The resented self may actually want to receive acknowledgement, attention, and empathy for his efforts rather than making money. Usually, wealthy people do not receive much thoughtfulness or empathy from others.

So, he was unaware of creating his week points, by saying “ In spite of all my efforts, it’s still hard to overcome lots of troubles, I’m not sure I could handle them..,” in order to get thoughtfulness and sympathy from others. That is not straight desire to make debt, but this thought may lead to the actual situation of being in debt.

Therefore, you need to admit that you, knowingly or unknowingly, actually wished for the opposite at the level of the deep conscious if your present conscious reality is different from that.

Whatever your reality may be, it is a manifestation of your thoughts. However, people tend to conceal this fact. In the above example, he hides his desire for sympathy or attention and cannot admit that it was actually the purpose of getting in debt. As he experiences the discrepancy between thoughts and reality, it seems to him that there are exceptions to the rule that thoughts create reality.

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Thoughts create reality, 100%!

(Continued from chapter 3)
When you fail to acknowledge the law of your thoughts creating your reality, you start to put blame on everything and everybody around you, starting with your parents and siblings, then, blaming your boss, coworkers and other people. By blaming others and relinquishing your own responsibilities, you start feeling that other people and external circumstances control you. Your consciousness fixates on the externals and not on the internals (self). This creates a world where you feel things are beyond your control and such things as destiny and fate exist. It is quite difficult to believe that your gender, your physical body and your birth family are the results of your choices and thoughts. After all, those feelings all stem from the misinterpretation that only the tiniest portion of consciousness is recognized as the entire self.

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Surface consciousis currently experiencing                                                                                                                          ↓                                         ↓ Reality (created by Deep conscious)

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↑ Deep conscious

1: Level of psychology (used to be surface conscious)
2: Level of genes
3: Level of monism

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BLAME STEMS FROM OBLIVION

Chapter 3: Blame Stems From Oblivion

When you feel there is a problem in life, you cannot accept your reality. It is when the surface conscious fails to acknowledge the deep conscious. You cannot recognize that your thoughts have created your entire reality.

Nonetheless, your reality, everything that exists in your world, is a complete reflection of your thoughts. Everything is your creation with no exception. There are few people, if any, who fully understand and accept this law. Many feel that this is applicable to certain things but not to every single event, and will start to doubt that law.

This feeling of doubt indeed comes from the fact that you recognize only five percent of your conscious as your entire self. It is just as if you believe that you know the entire iceberg by looking at only its top. Parts of the deep conscious were formerly the surface conscious. Just like the stratum, thoughts get piled up on each other and the surface conscious is pushed down to become the deep conscious. It can be said that the surface conscious is relatively new consciousness and the deep conscious is relatively old. The old consciousness has amounted to a larger quantity and it works on an autopilot mode. People forget in time about the existence of the old, piled up thoughts.

It takes time for thoughts to manifest themselves in reality. Therefore, the current reality is created from the accumulated old thoughts in the domain of the deep conscious that has been long forgotten. This oblivion brings us suffering and affliction. It also makes us to feel there are such things as miracles, mysteries, and acts of god, as we forget that our thoughts have created our realities and we lose control of our lives.