From Where Did His Sense of Guilt Come?

Case Study 3

Concealing One’s Sense of Guilt

Mr. K is troubled with his inability to express his feelings and emotions. His boss and coworkers think he lacks energy and vitality at work. He has tried to various therapies and was told that the cause of his trouble was a childhood memory of his father. His father always told Mr. K that he was a bad child. The therapies helped him with this memory, but he was not fully healed.

Eventually he received Fractal Psychological therapy. The sessions revealed that this memory was not a true cause of the problem. In the light of the TAW principle that thoughts create reality, it was interpreted that Mr. K initially had thought he was a bad child before his father said so. He examined the memory deeper to find out something different. As a child, Mr. K would steal merchandise from the store that his family ran while he was afraid of getting caught. There was one instance when he was caught and was scolded by his father, who told him that he was a bad boy. With this sense of guilt, he replayed this event over and over in his mind, which imprinted it as the fabricated memory that his father always saw him as a bad boy.

This tendency is not limited to his past. Mr. K still has a temptation to steal as an adult. He has never shoplifted nor stolen practically, but in his mind he always fights with the impulse. He carries the sense of guilt and that is what prevents him from articulating his feelings.

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His Parents Did Not Love Him…True?

Not Being Able to Get Along With Others

Mr. Y’s problem is that he cannot get along with others at work. Looking back in his childhood, he felt that his parents did not love him. He felt that he was left alone because the mother worked as well. So he decided to be alone when nobody paid attention to him and it became his habit. Because of this habit, he became not good at getting along with others.

He realized, though, when he became a parent, that always staying close was not love, but support for his child to grow and develop as a person was. A memory came back to him that that his parents trusted him very much and let him do things freely. The parents would say to him, “Don’t worry about money. Pursue whatever you want to do.” This allowed him to recall many more memories that proved his parents’ love.

Those memories have been in him all the time but have been intentionally ignored. Now his current perception has changed, and his past changed accordingly. Now he realized that he had enjoyed being alone rather than being left alone without choice. He also noticed that he has had the confidence to be very decisive since he was a child. That was his hidden and intentional result of being alone.

Now that his interpretation of the past has changed, and he acknowledges it, he can choose to be alone or with others now, without stress. This change in interpretation enables him to get along with others at work now.