Only Child Likes Monopoly

5. Characteristics of the Only Child

The only child has the characteristics of both the Eldest Child and the Youngest Child. S/he is the only child of his/her parents, so they raise him/her very carefully and attentively. S/he receives only the best in everything. S/he acquires material things as much as the Eldest Child, and is protected as much as the Youngest Child. Having eliminated siblings, s/he can monopolize material possessions and protection. So, s/he is not good at sharing things with others. S/he tends to be laid back since things come to him/her without competition. S/he is inclined to perceive others as very greedy and competitive.

S/he does not have status and retainers, and does not have the same responsibilities as the Eldest Child. Since s/he is the only child surrounded by adults, s/he receives an enormous amount of attention. S/he takes it for granted that adults are there to serve him/her. S/he seeks absolute protection. In exchange for this protection, s/he has no freedom as his/her parents meddle with his/her business on all fronts. The image of the only child is that of the heir to the throne, living in a tower. Everybody guards him/her so carefully, lest something would happen to him/her. S/he has good relationships with elder people, but s/he cannot build good relationships with boys and girls his/her age. Yet, he allows him/her to focus on what s/he wants to do.

The only child is more timid than the Youngest Child. S/he tends to keep his/her parents’ attention by talking to them as much as s/he likes. More than the Eldest Child, s/he is secretary preoccupied with monetary assets. Because s/he wanted to monopolize his/her parents, s/he has no siblings, and that makes him/her more worried about the future as s/he grows. S/he cannot get rid of the fear that may happen when his/her parents die. Because of this fear and these worries, s/he has an inclination to accumulate wealth for his/her peace of mind. S/he likes savings money more than other children do. S/he has trouble understanding other people’s feelings because s/he did not have other siblings. S/he often feels as if s/he is an outsider.
Main characteristics:

A: S/he is not good at relationships. S/he has trouble understanding others and him/herself.
B: S/he is relaxed and less competitive. S/he is a pacifist.
C: S/he has a strong desire for money, but s/he is unaware of it because s/he desires it automatically and normally, and everything had come to him/her without competition or strong effort. S/he feels other people are more greedy than him/her.
D: S/he feels strong jealousy towards others when they have something that s/he wants.
E: S/he feels superior to people his/her age, because s/he grew up around people older than him/her.
F: S/he always carries a sense of loneliness.
G: S/he is very timid and does not want to venture out of his/her comfort zone. S/he has more fear as s/he grows older.
H: S/he wants people to do what s/he wants them to do. S/he is selfish.
I: S/he requires perfection from others.
J: S/he does not strive for improving him/herself and tends to maintain the status quo. S/he tends to procrastinate, but once s/he is determined, s/he does not hesitate.

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The Past Exists at the Present Time

Chapter 9: Time Moves From the Present to the Past and the Future

Somebody said, “I did not have many complaints about my parents while growing up, but I realized as an adult that I could not do much in society. My parents haven’t taught me anything at all. Isn’t that terrible of them?”

Initially, she considered that her parents were great parents. However, she wanted to put blame on somebody else for her present incompetence, so she reasoned that they have taught her nothing. Then she started to see that her parents were actually bad. In this case, she should have made more of an effort in learning and building skills rather than making excuses. This admission would be shameful instead, and would take too much effort for her, so she blames the laziness of her parents and escapes from her responsibilities and obligations.

As you can see from the above example, your intentions have much to do with how you perceive your reality. This example shows that the current intention changed the meaning of past events. It illustrates that time does not flow from the past to the present in a linear-fashion. The present is not a result of a cause in the past.You may say that you cannot do anything about your current situations or reality because of some past events or karma, but you are simply making excuses because you do not want to be responsible and accountable for your present reality.

In the above example, a few decades separate the past event and the present intention. Yet, something that happened just now becomes immediately part of the past, and is interpreted by your present intention when you experience it. With different intentions, an event that was considered a negative may turn into a positive.

After all, the past only exists in your consciousness at the present time. Facts do not exist at all, and the past is remembered based on how you interpret it at the present time.
Nobody memorizes every single thing in his/her past. We only memorize part of an event by intentionally choosing what we want to memorize. Even if a person memorizes his parents as abusive, they may have been nice ninety-eight percent of the time and abusive only two percent of the time. He may have chosen to memorize the two percent and replayed the scene over and over in his mind. He had an intention in the past that served as criteria of what to memorize, but that intention still remains in the current him. How we interpret the past is determined by the present.

His past will change drastically if he reviews it, and concludes that the two percent of his memories of abuse was actually discipline for his selfish actions by his parents, and the other ninety-eight percent of his memories that he ignored are their true love. Thus, the TAW program helps you to rewrite your past considerably.

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Memories Are Not Facts

Chapter 8: Memories Are Fabricated

We learned in Lesson 6 that thinking is the same as taking action. If you accept it, can you say for sure that your brain could differentiate real experiences from mere imaginations or fantasies? You may say, “Yes, I can. Everyone can do it too.” However, the answer is actually, “No.”

The below example illustrates what I mean: there is a mother who reads to her child almost every night. “One day, I was too tired so I was about to skip reading. My son then said ‘Mom, you always skip reading.’ I was surprised, as I seldom go to bed without reading to him. This made me realize how children perceive negative events in an exaggerated manner.”

Children indeed tend to perceive what happen to them in this fashion. They cannot recognize what they regard as normal but strongly remember what is not. Thus, the boy only remembers the times when his mother didn’t read to him. Those few events left stronger impressions in him and are repeatedly recalled in his mind. The more frequently the events are remembered, the more they become intensified. Consequently the boy ends up thinking this happened “all the time”.

Also, you often hear people say: “My parents ignored me all the time when I was a child, “My dad hit me a lot when I was young,” “As a child, I was crying all the time,” and so forth. You must be skeptical if those statements are really true. Ask them what details they actually can recall on these occasions. Usually, it is the case that they can only remember just one or a couple of times the event happened in their lives of thirty-plus years. Yet, they would tell you that this ALWAYS happened. What occurs is that their imagination/fantasy has constructed and expanded what happened to build the memories as they have now.

By the same token, whatever good deeds you imagined doing are repeated in your mind, and the repetitions make you feel like you had always been doing them actually.
1. “I always cared about my mom.” (Imagination/Fantasy)
2. “I always helped my mom with chores.” (Occasional action and imagination/fantasy)
3. “I always took care of my younger brother.” (Forgetting about having bullied him much more than taking care of him)
4. “My dad was always asleep at home.” (This actually happened once a week.)

You need to be careful especially with case 1, a memory created by imagination/fantasy. You are aware of your own imagination/fantasy and believe in your mind that you did care about your mom for real. But you fail to notice the thoughtfulness of others because it is invisible and unrecognizable to you.

Thus, your memories of your own good conduct become inflated by imagination/fantasy, while you do not do the same for the good behavior of others. Bad actions by others get magnified by your imagination/fantasy in your mind and are remembered that way. Then, how reliable is your memory?

I have shown you how memories can be constructed by your own intention. The basis of your life is rooted in your childhood, but it consists of your own imagination and fantasies to a large degree. This means that you can manipulate and change most of the root since you are the one who created it.

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Reverse the Direction of the Time Axis

Chapter 7: Your Thoughts Precede Your Parents

TAW theory states that your thoughts come before your reality and there is no exception to this rule. Then, what about parents? In conventional psychology, the time axis always points from your parents to you. This only allows you to go as far as forgiving your parents when you have a problem with them, within the domain of traditional psychology. Conventional belief is that you cannot choose your parents and they must exist before you for you to be born. If you are dissatisfied with and resent your parents, all you can do is to forgive their immaturity to remove the resentment.

But this defies TAW theory; how can you say that your thoughts create your reality when you feel like you have no control over the choice of parents. In a way, it is arrogant to say that you forgive them for their immaturity (by regarding yourself superior than them). It is also pretentious and even tragic to sympathize with your parents for your grandparents’ immaturity.
There is no second of time when your thoughts do not manifest in your reality. You may say, “My parents weren’t mature,” and “They weren’t bad. My grandparents are the one to blame.” However, this kind of thinking and these excuses make you as a victim in your own life. It asserts that your birth, which is the very root of your life, has nothing to do with your thoughts. This obscures the law that thoughts create reality. It is necessary to re-grasp the consciousness you had at the start of your life in order to live a full life according to the law.

In TAW theory, the origin of life is your thoughts. Therefore, it is necessary to reverse the direction and perception of the time axis, moving now from you to your parents. It is your thoughts, the origin, that have created your parents. The immaturity of your parents is merely a reflection of the immaturity of your thoughts at the beginning of your consciousness. Don’t you agree that freedom in the truest form is the ability to attribute everything to oneself and be self-contented?

Independence of spirit and mind is true freedom. In order to achieve that, it helps to take a new look at the family relationships in your childhood since it is the basis of your life. This gives you clues to recognize that you have been creating your life exactly according to your wishes and thoughts.

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Thinking and Taking Action Are Same Thing..But Why?

Chapter 6: Thinking and Taking Action Are Same Thing

Since the surface conscious cannot perceive your deep thoughts, it is necessary to use strong, exaggerated words in order to perceive them. For example, in denying somebody and saying, “That person acts wrong,” you need to exaggerate and say instead, “I want to kill that person.”

[Negation/denial (Criticism, Bulling, Attack, etc.) —-> Killing/Murder (Death)]

The exaggeration probably seems too much to you. You may say, “Criticism and murder are completely two different things. I’ve never thought of killing that person.” But this creates a barrier in your mind and prevents you from looking deeper into your mind. When you start to conceal your wicked thoughts because you don’t want to see them, you lose the ability to perceive your true self.
What comes next is that you feel there are external forces such as destiny or fate that control and manipulate your life. Expressing fleeting, almost imperceptible thoughts in strong, exaggerated language helps you to find your honest and true mind.

You remember the example of the young man who lost his mother, in Chapter 4, “Results are purposes.” He may never have wished for her death. However, he must have felt a kind of negation, “I don’t need a mom like her anymore.” “The denial” equates “No need.” Once this thought accumulated enough, it may have lead to the actual death of the person.

Thinking about something equates to taking an action upon it. Denying somebody in mind, even if it is not expressed explicitly, is just as same as saying it aloud. This produces a negative reality. An example is a businessman Mr. A, who is secretly criticizing his boss in his mind every day. His co-worker, Mr. B, brought his own criticism directly to their boss. Still, Mr. A gets bitter treatment from the boss rather than Mr. B, even though Mr. A said nothing and Mr. B was the one who expressed his discontent. Why did this happen when Mr. A was not expressing anything openly?

Here is another example. A boy would steal $10 from his mom’s purse once a month and his older sister would take out a dollar every day. She did not get caught as she only stole $1 at a time. However, the boy did get caught and scolded by his mother because of the larger amount. Who stole more money in this example? You will never know the truth as long as you compare the amounts for only one day. The sister stole more and repaid nothing for it, while the brother had to repay by being reprimanded. She will need to pay back later in a much larger form, which means something much larger or more serious will happen to her to make her pay for her actions.

What matters here is the quantity of thought, not the amount of actions taken. Thoughts create reality, remember? Since one cannot measure the amount of thoughts, which are invisible, he ends up feeling unfairly treated in emerged reality. The truth is, it all depends on how many thoughts he accumulates in his mind.

We all have arbitrary criterion of punishment. It would be simply subjective to dismiss your wicked thoughts, saying, “Oh, this little thought won’t do anything negative. It is so small.” You must not ignore your thinking patterns and your amount of thoughts. You need to start doubting your belief that you do not have negative thoughts, and examine the amount of small negative thoughts you have accumulated.

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In Los Angeles, 2014

Why do people try to become poor?

Chapter 5:

1 % of Thoughts in Surface Conscious might be Enormous in Deep Conscious.

The deep conscious is enormous in quantity. It has different layers of depth. Many people think that one could reach the deepest part of the subconscious by meditation or hypnosis. Yet, the level of the depth touched by meditation is not as deep as the level that can be detected by Fractal psychological methods. When you go into your deep conscious with the guidance of your surface conscious, you will be limited by your surface conscious.

Let’s say that your whole consciousness is an ocean. Meditation and hypnosis is like diving without any gear, so one cannot go too deep (You can go until the level 1 of the deep conscious in the Illustration 2). In order to detect the deeper deep conscious, the analysis of your current reality is a quicker and precise way, because the reality is results of your compounded thoughts. The deepest part of your deep conscious has appeared as your surroundings (at the level of the deep conscious 3 of the Illustration 2).

You may hardly feel the thoughts in your deep conscious with your current surface conscious. However, as you have already learned, the fact that you hardly feel them doesn’t mean that those thoughts don’t exist. In the above ocean analogy, when you find one deep sea fish on the surface, there might be a whole bunch of them in the deep sea.

It is usually the case that when you are frustrated in life, your present reality does not match with your current conscious thoughts. When your thoughts in the surface conscious match with your thoughts in the deep conscious, you feel things are going well and you do not perceive any problems. Your current situation is taken for granted and you don’t think of it. But if, one is in debt despite his wish to make lots of money, for example, that would make him wonder why this has happened and take this situation as problematic.

In this case, if he takes a look into his deep mind, he might find less than one percent of negative thoughts, that nobody acknowledges him despite of all his efforts. If there is one percent of those negative thoughts in the surface conscious, then there exists much more of the same in the level of the deep conscious. The resented self may actually want to receive acknowledgement, attention, and empathy for his efforts rather than making money. Usually, wealthy people do not receive much thoughtfulness or empathy from others.

So, he was unaware of creating his week points, by saying “ In spite of all my efforts, it’s still hard to overcome lots of troubles, I’m not sure I could handle them..,” in order to get thoughtfulness and sympathy from others. That is not straight desire to make debt, but this thought may lead to the actual situation of being in debt.

Therefore, you need to admit that you, knowingly or unknowingly, actually wished for the opposite at the level of the deep conscious if your present conscious reality is different from that.

Whatever your reality may be, it is a manifestation of your thoughts. However, people tend to conceal this fact. In the above example, he hides his desire for sympathy or attention and cannot admit that it was actually the purpose of getting in debt. As he experiences the discrepancy between thoughts and reality, it seems to him that there are exceptions to the rule that thoughts create reality.

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The instructors of my school in Japan.↑

Monism in Your Life

We’ll share with you Fractal psychology based on monism.

Fractal Psychology Master Course
Fractal Psychology is based on monism. This main program; “Fractal Psychology Master Course” consists of six parts and it takes 19 days if you attend real classes. However, you don’t need to come to the classrooms, and you can learn it at your home by learning on this blogs.
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Introductory Class: “Thoughts Create Reality”

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Preface

Welcome to the Introductory Level of the Fractal Psychology Master Course. I sincerely congratulate you as you stand at the door to the truth of life, ready to embark on this life-changing journey.
“Thoughts create reality, one hundred percent, without exceptions.”

This is the truth of life. This world is made from what you think without any exceptions. It is your thoughts that have created your world.You’ll learn to see your thoughts  and their patterns in the Fractal Psychology Master Course from the Introductory to the Intermediate Levels. It is very important to know this because your thoughts and thinking patterns determine your world.
Life is not “suffering”. There is no destiny and no karma in life. Your thoughts are what shapes your life.Why, then, haven’t you noticed this yet? It is because your consciousness fails to capture the deepest part of the mind. What will happen if you acquire the ability to perceive it? It will be as if you had in your hand a map of your life.
This program will allow you to see the mechanism of how life unfolds. You’ll be able to understand the meaning of your life’s events. You’ll be able to lead a fulfilling life, with meaning and purpose. This is exactly the aim of the program, up to the intermediate level.
In the first three levels of the program, you’ll learn thoroughly how your thoughts manifest in your reality.

Fractal Psychology is based on the premise that the world is made of fractal structures created by your thoughts. Some of you may know that you are the creators of your own lives. Are you, really? It is usually the case that you are not able to apply it fully in reality. Why not, then?
It is because people fail to understand this rule in a true sense. Many people entertain the idea of positive thinking and do not apply the method to their own situations. Sometimes it is difficult to believe this law, that thoughts create reality one hundred percent, and you find yourself wanting to refute it. There are circumstances that do not seem to fit the bill, such as accidents, disasters, diseases, congenital disabilities or unfortunate environments.

If you treat these as exceptions to the rule, you will feel that things like destiny, fate or unrealized wishes exist. You will say, “How can I be responsible for all this?”
If you make an exception, the law does not stand as such, and you cannot use it.

It may be scary to know that you create everything in your life, whatever it may be. However, it is the purpose of this program to enjoy exploring and learning the rule.

The experiences of others are perceived and defined by an observer that is you. The observer is the one that gives meaning to them: “She is happy,“ or “ He is unlucky.” In other words, you define and determine fortunes and misfortunes of the world. Nothing is more important than to examine your thinking first.

We will start by investigating what you are thinking and knowing the patterns of your
thoughts. You will start noticing that things go well in your life once you liberate your mind and thoughts. You CAN create the life you wish to create.
Let us begin the journey!

By Mau Isshiki

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