Only Child Likes Monopoly

5. Characteristics of the Only Child

The only child has the characteristics of both the Eldest Child and the Youngest Child. S/he is the only child of his/her parents, so they raise him/her very carefully and attentively. S/he receives only the best in everything. S/he acquires material things as much as the Eldest Child, and is protected as much as the Youngest Child. Having eliminated siblings, s/he can monopolize material possessions and protection. So, s/he is not good at sharing things with others. S/he tends to be laid back since things come to him/her without competition. S/he is inclined to perceive others as very greedy and competitive.

S/he does not have status and retainers, and does not have the same responsibilities as the Eldest Child. Since s/he is the only child surrounded by adults, s/he receives an enormous amount of attention. S/he takes it for granted that adults are there to serve him/her. S/he seeks absolute protection. In exchange for this protection, s/he has no freedom as his/her parents meddle with his/her business on all fronts. The image of the only child is that of the heir to the throne, living in a tower. Everybody guards him/her so carefully, lest something would happen to him/her. S/he has good relationships with elder people, but s/he cannot build good relationships with boys and girls his/her age. Yet, he allows him/her to focus on what s/he wants to do.

The only child is more timid than the Youngest Child. S/he tends to keep his/her parents’ attention by talking to them as much as s/he likes. More than the Eldest Child, s/he is secretary preoccupied with monetary assets. Because s/he wanted to monopolize his/her parents, s/he has no siblings, and that makes him/her more worried about the future as s/he grows. S/he cannot get rid of the fear that may happen when his/her parents die. Because of this fear and these worries, s/he has an inclination to accumulate wealth for his/her peace of mind. S/he likes savings money more than other children do. S/he has trouble understanding other people’s feelings because s/he did not have other siblings. S/he often feels as if s/he is an outsider.
Main characteristics:

A: S/he is not good at relationships. S/he has trouble understanding others and him/herself.
B: S/he is relaxed and less competitive. S/he is a pacifist.
C: S/he has a strong desire for money, but s/he is unaware of it because s/he desires it automatically and normally, and everything had come to him/her without competition or strong effort. S/he feels other people are more greedy than him/her.
D: S/he feels strong jealousy towards others when they have something that s/he wants.
E: S/he feels superior to people his/her age, because s/he grew up around people older than him/her.
F: S/he always carries a sense of loneliness.
G: S/he is very timid and does not want to venture out of his/her comfort zone. S/he has more fear as s/he grows older.
H: S/he wants people to do what s/he wants them to do. S/he is selfish.
I: S/he requires perfection from others.
J: S/he does not strive for improving him/herself and tends to maintain the status quo. S/he tends to procrastinate, but once s/he is determined, s/he does not hesitate.

The Purpose of Life for Youngest Child is Protection..Love.

3. Characteristic of the Youngest Child

The Youngest Child has at least one older sibling, so parents are experienced raising children by the time of his/her birth. They raise him/her while they work and take care of the first child. The youngest can never experience monopolizing his/her mother, and usually receives second-hand clothing and baby items from the older sibling. Parents and family members no longer make a big deal out of the arrival of a child. Thus, s/he receives much less attention and fewer gifts. From the start, parents can dedicate less time and energy to this child in comparison to the older child. If there are three or more children in the household, they can no longer afford financially to provide for the Youngest Child, so eventually his/her financial state will be worse. The first child tends to want the best things, but the Youngest Child usually feels very happy when receiving something from his/her parents, even if it is ridiculously trivial.

The Youngest Child is often said to be shrewd. S/he grows up watching the older siblings and can observe what makes their parents happy or annoyed. On the other hand, s/he is very cautious and timid, and this disposition itself caused him/her to be born as the youngest. S/he is supposed to be protected and pampered by the whole family. The general definition of love is receiving protection and care, so we can say that “protection is love.” Thus, the Youngest Child can obtain “love.” S/he receives less care and attention initially, but the attention of his/her parents will increase little by little as s/he grows older. That is because his/her mother can spend more time and attention to take care of the Youngest Child as the older siblings become independent. Thus, the Youngest Child is the only child who can get increase his/her mother’s care. S/he enjoys learning from the older siblings who are ahead of him/her. S/he is less resistant to receiving guidance or copying others. On the other hand, s/he always feels inferior to the older siblings. That feeling makes him/her very competitive, and make him/her possess a strong aspiration to improve.

Sometimes the older siblings suppress and force him/her to behave like as a servant. This is the cost of the love (protection) that s/he gets. In order to be loved (protected,) s/he needs to be observant of other family members, and curry favor with them. This is another cost of love. Thus, s/he becomes interested in people. The image of the Youngest Child is that of “an eternal student.” S/he has an inclination to learn forever. S/he always feels unconfident and feels like s/he can never win. This feeling is also the cost of receiving “protection.”

Main Characteristics:
A: S/he tends to be dependent and needy for protection.
B: S/he is timid, feeling unstable in a leadership position.
C: S/he is emotional, considerate to others, sympathetic with others.
D: S/he tends to curry favor with others, and often uses humore.
E: S/he is interested in learning, being guided and has great aspirations.
F: S/he becomes flustered because there is always something overwhelming him/her. S/he has low self-estimateem.
G: S/he avoids taking responsibility alone. S/he takes action only when guided or instructed.
H: S/he is self-assertive in a selfish manner.
I: Due to low self-esteem, s/he tends to settle for her/his second choice.

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You Can Find Your True Purpose of Life in Your Birth Order

Fractal Psychology Master Course: “Introduction”
The Fundamental Purposes of Life

Chapter 1. The Family Environment as the First Reality That You Created

TAW (Theory on which Fractal Psychology is based) theorizes that life is complete realization of your thoughts. The first thing in your life that you recognized is your family and familial relationships. So, this is your very first creation from your thoughts. Your thoughts precede everything including your parents, siblings and your birth order. Your reality emerged exactly as you had thought. Family is the smallest and first unit of society that you encountered. You learn how to interact with others from birth to the age of six when you live in a small social unit, such as a family. Your thoughts have created your family, and you learn patterns of personal interactions from it. This becomes the foundation of life.

The way you perceive family and your reality is as follows:

Wrong recognition:
“My family environment was _______, so I became _______.”

Correct recognition:
“I had thoughts of _______, which was manifested into my family environment.

“Because my environment had been such, I became _______ more and more.”

What purpose did you have by creating your family environment? It manifests in the order of birth among siblings. Parents treat the eldest, the Middle Child and the youngest differently. This difference can tell you what your initial purpose is at birth, because “Results are Purposes” as we have learned. Why were some born as the eldest, some as the youngest, or some without siblings?
Let us analyze attributes based on birth order.

General Purposes of Life Analyzed by Birth Order:

Eldest Child: status, things, possession, creation
Youngest Child: protection, guidance, love, wisdom, preservation
Middle Child: freedom, independence, innovation, destruction
Only Child: things, possession, protection, monopoly

As shown the above, birth order can tell you much about the purposes of life. Let us explore more in the following lessons (chapters).

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Everyone has His Own Purpose of Life

Fractal Psychology Master Course “Introduction”

THE FUNDAMENTAL PURPOSES OF LIFE

Preparatory Exercise: Choose the sentences that describe you in each group.

Group A:
・On a date, I prefer going to a high-end restaurant.
・I would choose to work for a large, household name company.
・I feel I should inherit and manage the family lineage after my parents’ death.
・I feel I should look after my ancestors’ graves (to preserve the family lineage).
・I sometimes end up purchasing items without checking the price first.
・I own high-quality items including high-end brands in small quantities.
・I am interested in learning about my ancestors’ history and traditional culture.
・I care about courtesy, social rules, and respectability.
・I feel enthusiastic and work hard when somebody depends on me.
・I have an unfounded confidence.
・I prefer quality over quantity.
・I believe it is a social rule to respect elder people/senior citizens.

Group B:
・On a date, I prefer a restaurant where I can chat comfortably.
・I prefer to work for a company with stability.
・I feel we should help weak people and people in need.
・I think love is more important than money.
・I sometimes want to buy what other people have.
・I become easily satisfied with something simple and inexpensive.
・I become interested in learning the same thing my friends are learning.
・I should get along with my neighbors so I could ask them for help in case of an emergency.
・There is somebody I revere.
・I feel that it is more pleasant to spend time with others rather than being alone.
・I can’t say no when somebody gives me direction.
・I would rather have somebody teach me on the job.

Group C:
・On a date, I don’t mind eating at a restaurant that we run into randomly.
・I would like to work for a company with a less restrictive corporate culture and a casual dress code.
・I want to go see the world, leaving family obligations to other siblings.
・I don’t follow fashion trends.
・It often happens that I have trouble find something I like, so I end up visiting many stores.
・I become learning something few people learn, rather than something many are learning.
・I feel in having to socialize with relatives and neighbors is tiresome.
・I would like to live in many different places.
・I enjoy traveling alone.
・I feel annoyed if other people rely on me.
・I will create my own method rather than imitating other people’s methods.
・I enjoy contemplating and creating revolutionary ideas.

TAW Inner Child Therapy is the Method to Access to Your Limbic System

Chapter 11. Why Do We Need to Correct Inner Child

You see commentators on the news claim, “You, authorities, should apologize to victims,” or “You should pay more compensation money to victims.” This indicates that they believe things happened beyond their control and there must be somebody else to blame. Those people think that the act of blaming means justice.

In the world where thoughts create reality, there is no blaming game. There is nothing for which one can blame somebody else. Without understanding this law, people end up having a sense of victimization and blaming others as if that constitutes justice. This victim mentality is Inner Child. Yet, those commentators on the news have social status, and they are well-educated. Most people perceive the commentators’ remarks as rational and acceptable, so we interpret these remarks incorrectly as thoughts of Adult Self, instead of deeming it as thoughts of Inner Child. Still, we, Fractal psychologists, do not do it. Why do we deem these blaming thoughts as Inner Child?

As we learned from Lesson 3 (page 8), what the surface conscious experiences presently is the reality created out of the deep conscious. In order to change the current reality, you must modify and reeducate your deep conscious, especially the old part of it which has very limited and unintelligent viewpoints. Because of this “limited and unintelligent” inclination, we call it “Child.”
We all have this part in our deep conscious, so we call it Inner Child.

Visualizing yourself as a child has another effect. The law of “Thoughts Create Reality” can be explained physically as follows: Thoughts as water vapor turn into emotions as liquid water, and they form reality as ice. Therefore, you must go back at least to the stage of liquid water in order to change the ice. Since water means emotions in this case, you need to access the emotional part of the brain that is called the cerebral limbic system, which you used in your childhood. In order to do this, you need to imagine that you are a child, and feel the old emotions as much as possible. It allows the ice to remold into a new shape. Thus, your reality changes accordingly.

This process is also useful when one wants to develop a new ability. If the surface conscious is likened to leaves of a tree, the deep conscious is likened to its root. We can expect the tree to grow taller and faster when we give nutrients to the root of the tree, not to the leaves. The root is the old mind, called “Inner Child.”
As shown above, it is an effective method to visualize Inner Child in order to modify the old deep conscious and to develop new abilities.

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