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The Purpose of Life for Youngest Child is Protection..Love.

3. Characteristic of the Youngest Child

The Youngest Child has at least one older sibling, so parents are experienced raising children by the time of his/her birth. They raise him/her while they work and take care of the first child. The youngest can never experience monopolizing his/her mother, and usually receives second-hand clothing and baby items from the older sibling. Parents and family members no longer make a big deal out of the arrival of a child. Thus, s/he receives much less attention and fewer gifts. From the start, parents can dedicate less time and energy to this child in comparison to the older child. If there are three or more children in the household, they can no longer afford financially to provide for the Youngest Child, so eventually his/her financial state will be worse. The first child tends to want the best things, but the Youngest Child usually feels very happy when receiving something from his/her parents, even if it is ridiculously trivial.

The Youngest Child is often said to be shrewd. S/he grows up watching the older siblings and can observe what makes their parents happy or annoyed. On the other hand, s/he is very cautious and timid, and this disposition itself caused him/her to be born as the youngest. S/he is supposed to be protected and pampered by the whole family. The general definition of love is receiving protection and care, so we can say that “protection is love.” Thus, the Youngest Child can obtain “love.” S/he receives less care and attention initially, but the attention of his/her parents will increase little by little as s/he grows older. That is because his/her mother can spend more time and attention to take care of the Youngest Child as the older siblings become independent. Thus, the Youngest Child is the only child who can get increase his/her mother’s care. S/he enjoys learning from the older siblings who are ahead of him/her. S/he is less resistant to receiving guidance or copying others. On the other hand, s/he always feels inferior to the older siblings. That feeling makes him/her very competitive, and make him/her possess a strong aspiration to improve.

Sometimes the older siblings suppress and force him/her to behave like as a servant. This is the cost of the love (protection) that s/he gets. In order to be loved (protected,) s/he needs to be observant of other family members, and curry favor with them. This is another cost of love. Thus, s/he becomes interested in people. The image of the Youngest Child is that of “an eternal student.” S/he has an inclination to learn forever. S/he always feels unconfident and feels like s/he can never win. This feeling is also the cost of receiving “protection.”

Main Characteristics:
A: S/he tends to be dependent and needy for protection.
B: S/he is timid, feeling unstable in a leadership position.
C: S/he is emotional, considerate to others, sympathetic with others.
D: S/he tends to curry favor with others, and often uses humore.
E: S/he is interested in learning, being guided and has great aspirations.
F: S/he becomes flustered because there is always something overwhelming him/her. S/he has low self-estimateem.
G: S/he avoids taking responsibility alone. S/he takes action only when guided or instructed.
H: S/he is self-assertive in a selfish manner.
I: Due to low self-esteem, s/he tends to settle for her/his second choice.

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This Is the Purpose of Eldest Child

Chapter 2. Characteristics of the Eldest Child

The Eldest Child is the first child for parents. They must purchase baby clothes, a crib, everything anew. If this baby happens to be the first grandchild of the family, the excited grandparents will not hesitate to buy and prepare many things with delight. Besides, this child will be showered by many gifts from family friends and acquaintances from birth. Every aspect of child rearing is new to the parents, so they treat their first baby extremely carefully.

Thus, the eldest is same as the only child until the second child is born. The eldest receives enormous attention and material things. It is usually the case that s/he has most photos taken among the siblings. Due to birth order, s/he naturally acquires the titles of “the eldest son or daughter,” “the first grandchild,” and “family heir.”

Since this is the first pregnancy and first parenting for the mother and father, they have a large amount of worries and expectations about their first baby. Their dreams and wishes will be projected onto their first child. Hence, the most prominent characteristic of the Eldest Child is that s/he is the only one child who can monopolize the parents. The child is allowed to behave like a noble prince or princess for a while.

So far, it is the same as an only child. The difference is that the Eldest Child will lose the monopoly when the second child is born. Then parents will tell him to take care of the younger sibling and to act as his/her big brother and sister. The younger sibling is told to obey the eldest. This is a new status for the Eldest Child that is not available to the only child. The eldest can earn this status and respect as long as s/he takes care of the younger siblings. Taking care of others is needed as payment to acquire status and prestige, because now s/he has his/her retainers. The image of the eldest is “king” or “queen.” Naturally this elevates his/her pride. This is the ultimate purpose of his/her life.

As for the negative side, the basic trauma will occur to the eldest when the next child is born. The mother starts taking care of another child while the eldest still believes that the mother should be devoted to only him/her. S/he becomes shocked that his/her empire was annihilated by this lowly newborn baby. S/he feels something unreasonable has happened. S/he becomes skeptical about love, believing, “Love ends someday (This depends on the time span until the second child is born).” This deep disappointment will be harbored in his/her mind for life unless s/he modifies this misunderstanding.

Main characteristics:
A: S/he puts importance on material things.
B: S/he clings to status, assets, reputation, brand, and appearance.
C: S/he has great pride and believes that s/he has priority over others without any reason.
D: S/he makes a great leader, is responsible, and can give orders. S/he is good at taking care of others.
E: S/he doesn’t like imitating other people and will avoid doing something if s/he must copy someone else.
F: S/he sees importance in tradition and protocols and believes that seniority matters.
G: S/he seeks organization and ranking within the society. S/he is good at maintaining personal relationships within the social order.

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Everyone has His Own Purpose of Life

Fractal Psychology Master Course “Introduction”

THE FUNDAMENTAL PURPOSES OF LIFE

Preparatory Exercise: Choose the sentences that describe you in each group.

Group A:
・On a date, I prefer going to a high-end restaurant.
・I would choose to work for a large, household name company.
・I feel I should inherit and manage the family lineage after my parents’ death.
・I feel I should look after my ancestors’ graves (to preserve the family lineage).
・I sometimes end up purchasing items without checking the price first.
・I own high-quality items including high-end brands in small quantities.
・I am interested in learning about my ancestors’ history and traditional culture.
・I care about courtesy, social rules, and respectability.
・I feel enthusiastic and work hard when somebody depends on me.
・I have an unfounded confidence.
・I prefer quality over quantity.
・I believe it is a social rule to respect elder people/senior citizens.

Group B:
・On a date, I prefer a restaurant where I can chat comfortably.
・I prefer to work for a company with stability.
・I feel we should help weak people and people in need.
・I think love is more important than money.
・I sometimes want to buy what other people have.
・I become easily satisfied with something simple and inexpensive.
・I become interested in learning the same thing my friends are learning.
・I should get along with my neighbors so I could ask them for help in case of an emergency.
・There is somebody I revere.
・I feel that it is more pleasant to spend time with others rather than being alone.
・I can’t say no when somebody gives me direction.
・I would rather have somebody teach me on the job.

Group C:
・On a date, I don’t mind eating at a restaurant that we run into randomly.
・I would like to work for a company with a less restrictive corporate culture and a casual dress code.
・I want to go see the world, leaving family obligations to other siblings.
・I don’t follow fashion trends.
・It often happens that I have trouble find something I like, so I end up visiting many stores.
・I become learning something few people learn, rather than something many are learning.
・I feel in having to socialize with relatives and neighbors is tiresome.
・I would like to live in many different places.
・I enjoy traveling alone.
・I feel annoyed if other people rely on me.
・I will create my own method rather than imitating other people’s methods.
・I enjoy contemplating and creating revolutionary ideas.

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When You Cannot Get Married, What Is Going on in Your Mind?

These are the examples of the case study to find your False Adult.

Case Study 4: “I want to get married, but I can’t.”

A=Adult
C=Child

C: I want to get married.

A:Then, get married.

C: But if I am married, I will lose my freedom. I don’t want to spend time taking care of my spouse.

A: Then, why don’t you strive to have independence in your marriage?

C: But women end up having to work for the husbands. There won’t be any freedom.
(Something Strange)

A: Then, don’t get married.

C: But I would be lonely. (Excuse)

A: Then, just have a boyfriend.

C: I don’t want to continue working. I want to take it easy. (Real motive) (Something Strange)

A: Then, why don’t you quit?

C: But I think women should be financially independent as well. (False Adult)

This woman initially sees working as a burden so she wants to get married to avoid working. She says she wants a marriage because she is lonely, but that is just an excuse. At least at this point it is because she does not agree with the suggestion of having only a boyfriend to ease her loneliness. If she insists that she feels lonliness, eventually this excuse will be manifested and she will feel lonely very much.
Her real aim is to have somebody feed and take care of her; she wants to avoid work and have others serve her. This thought is projected onto a future spouse, and she feels that the husband will be dependent on her in marriage, using her like a servant. Thus, she is hesitant to get married. This is her Something Strange. This is just her selfish train of thought.

In the dialogue, at the end she evades the question of marriage by stating that women should be self-reliant as well. The conflict thus goes on. The assumption that women should be independent is created right at this moment and will remain in her consciousness. With this thought, she will be more unlikely to get married in the future. In this case, what she must do is to first acknowledge her Inner Child’s real motive, that she wants to depend on her spouse. She needs to have a dialogue with Child Self, teaching her what the dependence entails; reliance on her husband will create some limitations and it could lead to no personal growth or development as long as she avoids her housekeeping duties since nothing will get done. If she truly wants to get married, she must instruct Inner Child to accept limitation and carry out the duties of marriage. Or, if she is to be self-reliant, she must tackle her job with a more positive attitude.
In either choice that she chooses, things will go more smoothly once she has modified her Inner Child.

 

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When You Are in Conflict, Find Your “False Adult”

Chapter 12. Inner Child That Pretends to Be an Adult

The ultimate purpose of modifying your mind is transferring yourself to the state where you can make choices on your own. In that state, you will have independence based on the confidence with which you can be responsible for your life. This mental independence is the true form of freedom. It will definitely give you the greatest joy in your life.
However, there are times when you cannot make decisions, with various thoughts just going in circles. You want to make a decision, but still you cannot do it. Nobody deters you, but you are just unable to do so. This conflict wastes your energies, and this standstill exhausts you.

When you have a conflict, there are two entities inside you. One is mature, Adult You, and the other Inner Child. These two are arguing in your mind. Inner Child wants to avoid duties and responsibilities. S/he tries to deceive Adult You by making plausible excuses or seemingly rational reasons in order to manipulate other people including Adult You. This Child You is what we call “False Adult (Pretended Adult).” Its excuses eventually appear to be of righteousness and common sense, and that will make it difficult for you to make a decision, and send you thinking in circles without an end.
Sometimes Inner Child blurts out sophism. This unexplainable reasoning is called “Something Strange.” Something Strange is an unreasonable train of thought which is chained arbitrarily in your mind. You cannot become aware of this train of thought by yourself.

In order to end the conflict, you must be able to see through the excuses and rationales by False Adult and Something Strange. You must be careful with False Adult when it shows up and gives you reasons and explanation that are socially acknowledgeable. You may feel bound by these reasons and social rules, and become unable to choose and decide.

Those excuses may sometimes lead to serious consequences. For example, saying “I want to make my child listen to me. Otherwise s/he may be in an accident,” is in essence the same as wishing for an accident to happen to the child. When somebody says, “I have to quit my job, otherwise I may ruin my health,” no one knows whether it is true or not, but s/he allows the possibility that it will manifest as his/her reality one day.

Therefore, it is important to first to uncover what your Adult Self and Child Self are thinking. It helps to write down what they are saying on paper. As I explained before, we are not good at separating reality from imagination and fantasy. Writing helps you to draw a distinction between them and their respective thoughts. For instance, you might have two opposite wishes at the same time: you want to take a long vacation in an exquisite resort, and you want to work harder to get a promotion. When you hear both statements to yourself expressing the two thoughts, you think you can manage to do both. However, when you put your thoughts down on a paper, you can see it clearly that you need to choose one for yourself. Moreover, it helps to show what you have written to others. They can also point out your Something Strange.

It is also recommended to write down a dialog between Adult Self and Child Self.
You will notice that the Child Self sometimes pops out suddenly pretending to be an adult (False Adult) in the conversation. If you capture the false adult’s remarks straightaway, you will find the train of thought which has deceived you for long time, and you will be able to end the conflict.

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TAW Inner Child Therapy is the Method to Access to Your Limbic System

Chapter 11. Why Do We Need to Correct Inner Child

You see commentators on the news claim, “You, authorities, should apologize to victims,” or “You should pay more compensation money to victims.” This indicates that they believe things happened beyond their control and there must be somebody else to blame. Those people think that the act of blaming means justice.

In the world where thoughts create reality, there is no blaming game. There is nothing for which one can blame somebody else. Without understanding this law, people end up having a sense of victimization and blaming others as if that constitutes justice. This victim mentality is Inner Child. Yet, those commentators on the news have social status, and they are well-educated. Most people perceive the commentators’ remarks as rational and acceptable, so we interpret these remarks incorrectly as thoughts of Adult Self, instead of deeming it as thoughts of Inner Child. Still, we, Fractal psychologists, do not do it. Why do we deem these blaming thoughts as Inner Child?

As we learned from Lesson 3 (page 8), what the surface conscious experiences presently is the reality created out of the deep conscious. In order to change the current reality, you must modify and reeducate your deep conscious, especially the old part of it which has very limited and unintelligent viewpoints. Because of this “limited and unintelligent” inclination, we call it “Child.”
We all have this part in our deep conscious, so we call it Inner Child.

Visualizing yourself as a child has another effect. The law of “Thoughts Create Reality” can be explained physically as follows: Thoughts as water vapor turn into emotions as liquid water, and they form reality as ice. Therefore, you must go back at least to the stage of liquid water in order to change the ice. Since water means emotions in this case, you need to access the emotional part of the brain that is called the cerebral limbic system, which you used in your childhood. In order to do this, you need to imagine that you are a child, and feel the old emotions as much as possible. It allows the ice to remold into a new shape. Thus, your reality changes accordingly.

This process is also useful when one wants to develop a new ability. If the surface conscious is likened to leaves of a tree, the deep conscious is likened to its root. We can expect the tree to grow taller and faster when we give nutrients to the root of the tree, not to the leaves. The root is the old mind, called “Inner Child.”
As shown above, it is an effective method to visualize Inner Child in order to modify the old deep conscious and to develop new abilities.

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You Forget Your Initial Intentions of Being Ill

10. We Only Choose Benefits and Advantages

There is an sequence to follow, in order to gain a deep understanding the law, “Thoughts create reality.” To begin with, you must exclude the events that happened to other people. You need to examine only what happened to you, not what happened to others.
This principle must be followed in order to fully understand the law, “Thoughts create reality.” If you have a victim mentality, it is difficult to examine tragic events that you watch on TV news, putting aside your emotional feelings.

Every life strives to have a better environment. Therefore, a man only chooses whatever benefits him. Then, why are there those who choose and create sickness or bullying? We are sure that nobody wants to experience pain and suffering. However, if you experience those miseries, that means that you have thought of them at the level of deep conscious. You are writing those events into your screenplays.

When you are experiencing sufferings in your reality, you must find its seed (initial intention) to change the reality. Otherwise, the same result will continue to be produced because the same seed is automatically sown. For example, the seed of illness might have been your wish to let you off from work, to make someone treat you better, or to make someone apologize to you. The illness that was initially just a method to make your wish come true, became the purpose itself.
You forget your initial intentions (those are the purpose of your life), so you are apt to feel that you are a victim of your destiny, believing that you had not intended those events. But your initial intention is the origin, or the seed for creating your reality. The reality is the fruit of the seed.

If you are experiencing bullying, like horrible treatment from your boss, your initial intention may be to prove your perseverance. If you think, “I’ve struggled alone and worked hard despite of my boss’s bullying,” it might sound as if you are a better person, and it would give you some kinds of self-fulfillment. Making your boss a bad person naturally makes you a better and righteous person. In fact, your bully boss is just a projection of your deep conscious. This reveals that you are also a bully in your deep conscious. For the payment of concealing this fact, you end up experiencing being bullied.

Regardless of what your current reality is, let’s consider that your current reality would have had benefits at the beginning. By observing your present benefits, you can find your initial intention. And then, you can modify it and release yourself from hardships.

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Your Feeling Is Not Necessarily a Fact.

Chapter 9: Your Sense of Deficiency Is Proportioned to the Amount of Your Desire

Let’s say a man answered the question in the preparatory exercise for Chapter three, that love means parents always listen to him. He believes his parents did not listen to him, which he took as a sign of their lack of love for him. However, how could he be sure that his parents did not listen to him? You cannot be so sure of your own senses. The feeling that your parents did nothing for you is not necessarily a fact. Children under the age of six have a very limited perspective and care about only themselves. They do not remember when their parents listened to them because it always happened naturally. If their parents ignored them once, they would have kept strong memories because they felt resentment toward their parents, and they would have the memory that their parents “always” did not listen to them because they replay the memory repeatedly.

On the other hand, there are children who can accept their situation easily. They do not complain to their parents when their parents don’t provide what they want. Those children did not expect much from their parents in the first place, thus, there is a difference in perceiving an event among children with different degrees of desire. If you hear one person state, “My parents didn’t take care of me,” and another state, “My parents did,” you cannot judge which person was cared for more than the other. Yet, you can assert that those who clung to the memory that their parents did not take care of them had really a strong desire for their parents to do that.

For those people, it is difficult to relinquish the resentful memories. The image of the poor self is transferred into another image that they made with much effort; this process changes the lazy and mundane self into somebody of distinction and importance. Unhappy memories of their parents not loving them are an attractive and agreeable story to make other people sympathize and forgive them despite their bad traits. They can manipulate other people into taking care of them.

Even when the stories are kept private in their minds, they feel a sense of superiority because they are trying very hard despite their unfortunate past. Thus, they have no intention to let go of the past when they have already grown up.
As I explained above, there are misunderstandings in their minds which are emotionally charged. Those misunderstandings lead to their current situations in which they feel frustrated or underappreciated it is. Such a waste of energy to have these misunderstandings! Recognizing these misunderstandings is the way to liberate themselves in the true sense. However, their freedom is still limited as long as they blame their parents for their current lives. That means that they are still spiritually dependent on their parents even if they seem to be financially independent.

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People Have Wrong Definition of Love

Chapter 8: Change Definition of Love

Some people will have emotional difficulties when they try to broaden their perception. For those who hate the parents, it does not make sense when they hear that their parents loved them. Deeper investigation uncovers that they have resentment towards their parents who were different from their ideal image, saying; “my parents should have done that for me, but..” or “My parents were unusual. They didn’t act as other parents do..” Now they are adults, and they seem like they already have forgiven their parents, but those emotions still remain, even over something trivial. Those people have noticed many shortcomings in their parents.

Examples of the situation are:
1. My mother was cold-hearted, always paying attention to my elder brother and never to me.
2. My father was selfish and never fulfilled my needs. He never asked me what I wanted to buy and where I wanted to go.
3. My mom always took care of my younger sister, and she left me alone, saying “You are not a little child anymore.”
4. I was subject to abuse, so I was not same as other children. My parents were very immature.
5. I was always wondering why my family was deprived. My parents were always complaining about money and they didn’t buy anything for me.
6. My mother was dependent and obedient to my father. I didn’t want to turn out to be like her. I thought women were at a disadvantage. That’s why I never married.
7. I grew up in a loveless family because my parents divorced. I don’t know how to love, so nobody loves me.

You cannot recognize things that you take for granted. If you are a parent, you must know from experience what a demanding job parenting is. Parents spend most of their time child-rearing. Those who do not admit that their parents loved them do not comprehend this. They say, “I did not ask them to give birth. They just had me, so it’s their duty to raise me. However, simply taking care of me is not love.” They are asking their parents for something special, more than simply taking care of them. For those people, love means dependence and control. If they insist on this attitude, they will never have true love because the growing older naturally means less dependence on others.

If a woman has this dependency, she will have a fear of loving others. It is not because she did not have her parents’ love but she has become fearful thinking a lover will be dependent on her and control her just in the same way as she demanded to her mother and father. In her private life, she will have trouble getting married, and socially she will not enjoy working with subordinates because she believes other people are really dependent on her. As we have seen so far, the old, piled up resentments hinder growth and development, and they put limitations on you unknowingly. Thus, the misconception of the definition of love limits you in many ways.

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Misinterpretation Rooted From Limited Perspectives

Chapter 7: Broaden Perspectives and Eliminate Misinterpretation

How were your answers in the preparatory exercises? Most students answered something like, “I understood my mother over 99 percent but she understood me only 10 percent.”
The answers reveal that most of us feel that our mother’s perception on us was wrong and our viewpoint of our mothers was right. Is this true? No, in fact your mother definitely understood you much better than you did your mother. Do you agree? The more mature you are, the more you understand this and agree. The same goes for your workplace; the less experienced employees absolutely cannot understand the more experienced workers. However, you believed that as a child, you could judge your parents better than they judged you as well. This per se is an example of misinterpretation rooted from limited perspectives.

Your immature mind defined your parents before you were six years old. Thus, without truly understanding what your parents were actually doing, you have defined what your parents were. A broader perspective brings accurate views. For example, the whole view of an elephant drives you to understand accurately what an elephant is. But with a limited viewpoint, if you see only a leg of an elephant, you misinterpret that the foot is the entire elephant. You would believe that an elephant must be like a wall.

The same thing happened in your childhood. The perceptive of a child is centered on self. Child-you determined that whoever pampers you is a good person, and whoever restricts you is a bad person. Children would likely say;
“My mother is cold. She is always nice to my younger sister, not me.”
”My dad gets angry easily. He is scary. I don’t want to talk to him. I hate him.”

Fractal Psychological modification of Inner Child makes your perception of time wider and lets you get the whole picture of every object. You need to consider what the true meaning of fairness is, and who should have priority in a family. This consideration will help you get rid of your misinterpretation. And then, you can start to perceive a new world that you have missed so far.

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All Problems Stem From Only Three Causes

Chapter 6: All Problems Stem From Arrogance, Laziness and Ignorance

As we have already learned, the recognition ability of Inner Child is too immature to acknowledge our parents fairly and accurately. This failure has led to much misunderstanding and undervaluation of your parents at the level of the deep consciousness, even though we are now adults. Remember, the evaluation of your parents reflects on society. When you undervalue your parents, you undervalue your own abilities as well, because your parents are the reflection of part of your deep conscious.
For this reason, people who don’t respect their parents are apt to feel their ability is low, and they might believe that the reason is genetic. This is not true.

Fractal Psychology elucidates that, ultimately speaking, all problems stem from arrogance, laziness and ignorance: in other words, arrogance that parents should always put you first over anybody else, baby-like laziness that parents should take care of you constantly, ignorance that stems from lack of knowledge of the mechanism between phenomenon and thought. This misconception at the initial stage of life becomes a pattern and produces seeds for many troubles and problems in the future. These seeds are present and will affect your deep conscious.

Why do these misunderstanding occur? It is because we had been in perfect harmony and oneness before we started this life. Imagine that, as a fetus, you have absolute protection in your mother’s warm womb; you can get a constant flow of nutrients before you feel even a little hunger. There is no need for asking or showing your desires to others, and still you are protected from everything perfectly. But once you were born, the world begins to lag. You cry for milk, but milk does not come immediately. Everything takes time. Sometimes results are not as expected, and you must suffer and endure.

So, to be born in this world means a transition from the perfect world to a world with dissatisfaction and negativity. You take more notice of negativity, rather than love that exists for granted. You forget that in the womb you grew yourself on your own, but now you need to ask your parents to nurture you instead. This is the base of your mind, and that makes you incorrectly require something from your parents, others, and society. Furthermore, you might believe you are still helpless and powerless even in adulthood. Needless to say, that is just an illusion, but these feelings are comfortable for you because they remind you of being helpless and powerless after birth, when your parents took care of all of your needs.

Examples of Childhood Misinterpretation

“I am the center of my family.”
“I think my mother should prioritize me, instead of my father and my siblings.”
I consider my mother as a maid.
I think that my siblings took my mother away from me.
I feel that I can get anything I want.
I feel that I should be freed from whatever I do not want to do.
I believe that my mother should understand my feelings without explanation.
I think it is malicious to scold me.
I think others should listen to me all the time.

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The Traits of Your Parents Are Those You Already Possess

Chapter 5: Features of Fractal Psychology in Modifying Inner Child

Inner Child Therapy in Fractal Psychology is to modify your mind that remains stunted, by healing, re-experiencing and re-interpreting the events that caused trauma. Conventional therapy to treat Inner Child helps one to forgive his/her parents who gave imprinting and caused traumas, and to correct a tendency inherited from his/her ancestors. However, this does not conform to the theory of Fractal Psychology which is based on TAW, saying “Thoughts create reality.” TAW stipulates that our thoughts precede our parents.

As we learned from chapter three, we cannot recognize traits like love, because we do not possess love in ourselves. Therefore, some traits you see in parents are those you already have in your mind. Since you do not want to see them in yourself, you project them to your parents instead. Unless you admit that those traits originally belong to you, you cannot change your situation on your own, and you will experience the same situation again. When you experience the same situation, you will say as usual, “This negative pattern has been imprinted on me by my parents, so I’m experiencing this situation.”

Let me illustrate the above point. You felt that your clothes got dirty when you hugged your parents. You thought that their clothes were soiled first and made a mess on yours. So you exclude your parents from your life. Next, you change clothes and embrace your lover. Your lover’s clothes get dirty as well. Whose clothes are dirty after all? It seems that it is your body that is soiled. You see, this is how conventional therapies work, forgiving your parents and others for something even though they were still guilty, without pointing out the true cause.

Here is an example: suppose that your father hit you when you were a child. You forgive him saying, “Oh, he was immature back then. I will forgive him.” It may heal you temporarily and give you a sense of superiority as you felt like you successfully changed yourself. Yet, the tendency to be aggressive to others actually belongs to you, not your father, so you cannot change your disposition despite removing your father from your world. Therefore, you continue to attack people to whom you feel superior, including your children. In those instances, you will make an excuse that the trauma made by your father in your childhood still affects you.

You might remember that repeated memories act like true facts, as we have already learned. These memories repeatedly imaged create another reality. As a result, you might see somebody aggressive around you. You really desire that nobody hurts you, but you are creating somebody who is worse than you, in order to hide your true disposition. Thus, the vicious cycle continues.

TAW methods do not need external villains when you heal yourself. You do not need to forgive somebody in a therapy. All you need to do in therapy is to admit firstly that your father is a projection of your own self. If your father hit you, it suggests that you have initially attacked him (affronted him, belittled him) before his attack. Remember, “Thinking and Taking Action Are the Same Thing.” The admission comes first, and then, you will discover that even now your inner voice is always affronting somebody subconsciously. These aggressive dispositions are the true causes to drive you to your present troubles. Let me emphasis again, the admission must be first. Then, you recognize that your hidden personality, not the trauma, causes your present problems.

In the preparatory worksheet, you listed things that in which you think you are not as bad as your parents. That list is exactly what you have in yourself.

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You Will Experience the Same Events All the Time

Chapter 4: Influence of Inner Child

Suppose that you had an event in your childhood that hurt your feelings. It could be that you felt your parents treated your siblings better than you, or that your parents yelled at you unfairly. That event might have occurred only once, but you have repeated and replayed it in your mind, which makes it seem like it occurred many times in reality (as memories are fabricated). It occurred a long time ago and was already over, but your mind perceives as if it is still ongoing. Thus, an event created a small trauma.

Because of this trauma, you eventually start thinking that people around you will cause you emotional pain just like you believe your parents did, by projecting your parents onto these people. You will perceive your future in this manner. As this goes on for a while, this thought will emerge in reality, and something that hurts you will happen to you. This provokes an emotional outburst in you and you will feel that your claim that “you are hurt by somebody” is vindicated.

Once you fall into this pattern of thinking, you’ll experience the same events all the time.
You feel that people always hurt you whatever you do. You end up being immersed by negative emotions such as anger, resentment and sadness. This situation makes you feel that nothing is going well in life, and in turn you lose motivation or get sick from the stress and negative emotions. You may become unable to articulate yourself and unable to develop your abilities.

Those who have this symptom on an extreme level, usually exhibit dissatisfaction and anger over trivial things. They tend to complain and whine often, be disorganized, or constantly curry favor with other people. This in turn causes them to be lazy, irresponsible, make excuses without apology, and feel guilty and languish; these behaviors and attitudes drive them into conflict with others and into the vicious cycle of the negativity. Eventually this situation leads them to experience obsessions, phobias, and addictions. Energy is spent and wasted on negative thoughts, not on something productive and positive. In this way, the mind stops growing.

As illustrated above, Inner Child creates various emotions such as anger, sadness, loneliness, and different obsessions in our daily lives.

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We Had No Definition of Love in Our Childhood

Chapter 3: You Cannot Recognize What You Do Not Have in Yourselves

We hear some people say that they wanted their parents to love them but they were not loved. What is the “love” that those people mentioned?

You began recognizing your parents in the beginning of your life when your brain barely started functioning, and it was still very immature. If you considered your parents as immature, it signified that your mind was young and immature. You cannot recognize what you do not have in your cognitive system. You recognize only things for which you have definition.

Assume you find a token for a carnival game on a street. It has no meaning and no value for you, so you will ignore it. But it could be a priceless old coin while you just thought it was a carnival token. It is too late to realize its value after passing. Similarly, actions and thoughts of which you have no definitions in your mind cannot be recognized. When you were a baby, you thought of only yourself. You would not take care of other people when you were tired. You did not work for money and think of spending it for somebody else. Thus, you could not recognize that it was your parents’ love when your mother took care of you despite her fatigue and your father worked and earned money to spend most of it for you. You could not recognize the form of their love, so you ignored it.

When somebody says that his parents had no love, it actually means that he had no love as a child, and consequently he couldn’t project love onto his parents. If the present he, as an adult, still claims his parents have no love, that implies he still doesn’t have enough love to project onto them. Every person defines love differently. As children, though, we had no definition of love. We only experienced comfort and discomfort. Those who claim they needed to be loved didn’t think about love in their childhood. They defined discomfort as lack of parental love after they had grown up and become a little cunning. By re-examining the situation, they will find out that they just wanted their parents to do whatever they wished, rather than wanting their parents’ love.

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We Are Using Two Parts of Brain

Chapter 2: How Inner Child Perceives

Imagine that your male coworker told you (a woman) what happened over the weekend during the lunch break at work. He said, “Yesterday I took my daughter to the amusement park. She was so excited, but started whining when it was time to leave. She squatted and would not walk. So I had to raise my voice and finally tap her butt to make her stand up, and had to carry her along with heavy luggage because, you know, I had to come to work today. I was so exhausted.” You would sympathize with him, and would say, “That must have been tough. She spoiled your day off,” understanding your coworker’s disappointment. And you would add, “Well, you are very nice to your daughter. You do love her. My parents weren’t that nice. I remember that a long time ago my dad took me to the amusement park and that suddenly I got spanked even though I did not do anything.”

Let’s look at how the mind operates. When you listen to your coworker, you use you adult and mature mind, and make judgments with it. The adult mind allows you to see that he loves his daughter and spent his money and his day off taking her to an amusement park to make her happy. You also completely understood that the child spoiled all his kindness by whining and acting inconsiderately, and that she hurt her father deeply. However, when you recall and talk about your own similar experience from childhood, you apply the immature, child mind without noticing. It is revealed that you still have no idea how much you hurt your father’s feelings and disappointed him as a child.
As in the example, you will face some trouble because you still judge your parents with your immature, child mind. When you become an adult, the way you perceive your parents will transform to match how you perceive society, politicians, and the president of your work place. If you are dissatisfied with these people, your immature mind will automatically react to them. That makes you preoccupied with unhappy circumstances, and it will cause you problems at work. If you get angry with politicians or feel that society is not functioning well, or you dislike the president of your company, it means that you still have misconceptions and misunderstandings about your parents. You need to take a close look and reassess your parents with your mature, adult mind. When you have modified your mind, you will see your future circumstances changing gradually. That is because “your thoughts create your reality, 100%.”

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Is the Operating System of Your Brain Updated?

Basic Lecture 2: What is Inner Child

Chapter 1: Definition of Inner Child

Our daily thoughts, feelings and actions are based on some certain patterns which have already been predetermined. This resembles a computer’s operating system. The patterns were created at the initial stage of life. Fractal Psychology deems this period as from birth to the age of six. The operating system is a very important foundation because the new mind grows on top of it, just as new branches and leaves grow from a tree trunk. It needs to be fully functional and compatible in order for new software to work with it. If the operating system is old and outdated, new software, however advanced it may be, will not operate with it.

The operating system created in your childhood consists of your thoughts toward your family. You have been always employing this old OS to recognize the society at large. In brief, your viewpoint of your parents is reflected in your opinion about society, your company, your boss and politicians. Your perspective on your siblings is manifested in friends and coworkers.

Our minds are naturally meant to grow and develop each day. The growth and development of the mind allows you to have wider views, understand and acknowledge the feelings of others and be in harmony with people around you. It also enables you to create new works which you could not do before, expand your range of activities, and achieve even more.

At adolescence, your mind experiences a rapid growth. A new mind is born and growing inside the old one. This state of mixed mind is called “inner adult,” as the old mind still exists in a larger quantity than the new mind at this point. In this state, you feel like you have grown up. You also feel superior, and you might sometimes belittle your parents. Eventually your new mind grows more and occupies a larger part in the mixed mind, and it covers over your child part. This covered part becomes your “Inner Child.” This is a common state, when a person’s mind grows normally.

However, there remains part of the human psyche that does not grow despite the passage of time. This portion remains to retain the limited perspectives and experiences of a child. This is the Inner Child (the old part of the brain) that we are now attempting to modify.
Inner Child can be uncontrollable as it reacts to things more emotionally than logically, and that creates problems.

Only those with more adult mind than child mind can modify their Inner Child. For those with more child than adult brain, it becomes necessary to have external help to make modifications in their Inner Child. In these situations, you visualize an ideal mother figure and imagine that your mother comforts and heals you. Yet, this is only a consolation and not a true modification of your Inner Child.

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What Is Inner Child in Fractal Psychology?

Basic Lecture 2: What is Inner Child

Preparatory Worksheet

1. What kinds of problems would you experience when using a computer with an old operating system?

2. How old were your mother and father when you were born?

3. List situations or circumstances in your childhood when you felt being loved by your parents. Examples: When they hugged you; when they bought you a toy.

4. List things that irritate or anger you often in daily life, including really minor things.

5. Did you think that you had been better than your mother or father (or had not been as bad as your parents) in certain aspects? If any, list them.

a. Things better than your mother:
b. Things better than your father:

6. Answer the following questions.

A. Fill in the blanks in the following questions:
“Parents should do (      ) for children.”
“I wished that my parents would have (    ) for me. “

B. Visualize a childhood scene where your family is watching TV after dinner. Who has the control to choose the channels?

C. Imagine your parents and you (age 6) are at the toy store, and they about to buy a toy for you.
Who is choosing what to purchase? Your father, your mother, or yourself?

7. Answer the following questions. Do not give too much thought in answering. The maximum number is 100.
Q1) When you were in middle school, you were scolded by your mother. She said that you
were very self-centered. How much did you think she understood you?
(     )%
Q2) When you heard your mom saying the above, you thought that she was really short-tempered. How much do you think you understood her?                                                                          (       )%

8. What is your definition of “love?”
To love somebody is to (                        .)

9. Please refer to your answer(s) to the question 3 on page 21. How often did your parents do what you had wished that they would do? How many times? Occasionally?

10. What are the benefits or rewards, if any, if you get seriously sick or in an accident?

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From Where Did His Sense of Guilt Come?

Case Study 3

Concealing One’s Sense of Guilt

Mr. K is troubled with his inability to express his feelings and emotions. His boss and coworkers think he lacks energy and vitality at work. He has tried to various therapies and was told that the cause of his trouble was a childhood memory of his father. His father always told Mr. K that he was a bad child. The therapies helped him with this memory, but he was not fully healed.

Eventually he received Fractal Psychological therapy. The sessions revealed that this memory was not a true cause of the problem. In the light of the TAW principle that thoughts create reality, it was interpreted that Mr. K initially had thought he was a bad child before his father said so. He examined the memory deeper to find out something different. As a child, Mr. K would steal merchandise from the store that his family ran while he was afraid of getting caught. There was one instance when he was caught and was scolded by his father, who told him that he was a bad boy. With this sense of guilt, he replayed this event over and over in his mind, which imprinted it as the fabricated memory that his father always saw him as a bad boy.

This tendency is not limited to his past. Mr. K still has a temptation to steal as an adult. He has never shoplifted nor stolen practically, but in his mind he always fights with the impulse. He carries the sense of guilt and that is what prevents him from articulating his feelings.

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His Parents Did Not Love Him…True?

Not Being Able to Get Along With Others

Mr. Y’s problem is that he cannot get along with others at work. Looking back in his childhood, he felt that his parents did not love him. He felt that he was left alone because the mother worked as well. So he decided to be alone when nobody paid attention to him and it became his habit. Because of this habit, he became not good at getting along with others.

He realized, though, when he became a parent, that always staying close was not love, but support for his child to grow and develop as a person was. A memory came back to him that that his parents trusted him very much and let him do things freely. The parents would say to him, “Don’t worry about money. Pursue whatever you want to do.” This allowed him to recall many more memories that proved his parents’ love.

Those memories have been in him all the time but have been intentionally ignored. Now his current perception has changed, and his past changed accordingly. Now he realized that he had enjoyed being alone rather than being left alone without choice. He also noticed that he has had the confidence to be very decisive since he was a child. That was his hidden and intentional result of being alone.

Now that his interpretation of the past has changed, and he acknowledges it, he can choose to be alone or with others now, without stress. This change in interpretation enables him to get along with others at work now.

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She Was Abandoned, but The Truth Is..

Case Study 1: Tendency to Flatter Other People

Miss H grew up living with her grandparents or with relatives, having been abandoned by her parents. She regards herself as a poor, abandoned child, and thinks this was the reason for her bad character. However, TAW therapy and analysis revealed her true personality. She has a tendency to take for granted that other people will take care of her. She complains a lot, asking for better treatments even when people around her treat her well.

She realized that she had wanted for a better environment, which led her to be passed around the homes of the relatives. She knew that if she stayed at somebody’s home, she would be treated better as a guest. But this was the thinking of a child, and she started to feel uncomfortable in due time and ended up complaining.

Miss H still has this tendency. She belittles the president of the company for which she works, and feels superior to him. To conceal her cunning trait, she flatters the president of another company to make him acknowledge her, as proof that she is a good person.

This is her modus operandi that she presently uses, not due to her childhood event. Now that she admits that she was cunning in rejecting her parents and flattering others to obtain better treatment, she finally realized that people around her have always treated her well.

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The Past Exists at the Present Time

Chapter 9: Time Moves From the Present to the Past and the Future

Somebody said, “I did not have many complaints about my parents while growing up, but I realized as an adult that I could not do much in society. My parents haven’t taught me anything at all. Isn’t that terrible of them?”

Initially, she considered that her parents were great parents. However, she wanted to put blame on somebody else for her present incompetence, so she reasoned that they have taught her nothing. Then she started to see that her parents were actually bad. In this case, she should have made more of an effort in learning and building skills rather than making excuses. This admission would be shameful instead, and would take too much effort for her, so she blames the laziness of her parents and escapes from her responsibilities and obligations.

As you can see from the above example, your intentions have much to do with how you perceive your reality. This example shows that the current intention changed the meaning of past events. It illustrates that time does not flow from the past to the present in a linear-fashion. The present is not a result of a cause in the past.You may say that you cannot do anything about your current situations or reality because of some past events or karma, but you are simply making excuses because you do not want to be responsible and accountable for your present reality.

In the above example, a few decades separate the past event and the present intention. Yet, something that happened just now becomes immediately part of the past, and is interpreted by your present intention when you experience it. With different intentions, an event that was considered a negative may turn into a positive.

After all, the past only exists in your consciousness at the present time. Facts do not exist at all, and the past is remembered based on how you interpret it at the present time.
Nobody memorizes every single thing in his/her past. We only memorize part of an event by intentionally choosing what we want to memorize. Even if a person memorizes his parents as abusive, they may have been nice ninety-eight percent of the time and abusive only two percent of the time. He may have chosen to memorize the two percent and replayed the scene over and over in his mind. He had an intention in the past that served as criteria of what to memorize, but that intention still remains in the current him. How we interpret the past is determined by the present.

His past will change drastically if he reviews it, and concludes that the two percent of his memories of abuse was actually discipline for his selfish actions by his parents, and the other ninety-eight percent of his memories that he ignored are their true love. Thus, the TAW program helps you to rewrite your past considerably.

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Memories Are Not Facts

Chapter 8: Memories Are Fabricated

We learned in Lesson 6 that thinking is the same as taking action. If you accept it, can you say for sure that your brain could differentiate real experiences from mere imaginations or fantasies? You may say, “Yes, I can. Everyone can do it too.” However, the answer is actually, “No.”

The below example illustrates what I mean: there is a mother who reads to her child almost every night. “One day, I was too tired so I was about to skip reading. My son then said ‘Mom, you always skip reading.’ I was surprised, as I seldom go to bed without reading to him. This made me realize how children perceive negative events in an exaggerated manner.”

Children indeed tend to perceive what happen to them in this fashion. They cannot recognize what they regard as normal but strongly remember what is not. Thus, the boy only remembers the times when his mother didn’t read to him. Those few events left stronger impressions in him and are repeatedly recalled in his mind. The more frequently the events are remembered, the more they become intensified. Consequently the boy ends up thinking this happened “all the time”.

Also, you often hear people say: “My parents ignored me all the time when I was a child, “My dad hit me a lot when I was young,” “As a child, I was crying all the time,” and so forth. You must be skeptical if those statements are really true. Ask them what details they actually can recall on these occasions. Usually, it is the case that they can only remember just one or a couple of times the event happened in their lives of thirty-plus years. Yet, they would tell you that this ALWAYS happened. What occurs is that their imagination/fantasy has constructed and expanded what happened to build the memories as they have now.

By the same token, whatever good deeds you imagined doing are repeated in your mind, and the repetitions make you feel like you had always been doing them actually.
1. “I always cared about my mom.” (Imagination/Fantasy)
2. “I always helped my mom with chores.” (Occasional action and imagination/fantasy)
3. “I always took care of my younger brother.” (Forgetting about having bullied him much more than taking care of him)
4. “My dad was always asleep at home.” (This actually happened once a week.)

You need to be careful especially with case 1, a memory created by imagination/fantasy. You are aware of your own imagination/fantasy and believe in your mind that you did care about your mom for real. But you fail to notice the thoughtfulness of others because it is invisible and unrecognizable to you.

Thus, your memories of your own good conduct become inflated by imagination/fantasy, while you do not do the same for the good behavior of others. Bad actions by others get magnified by your imagination/fantasy in your mind and are remembered that way. Then, how reliable is your memory?

I have shown you how memories can be constructed by your own intention. The basis of your life is rooted in your childhood, but it consists of your own imagination and fantasies to a large degree. This means that you can manipulate and change most of the root since you are the one who created it.

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Reverse the Direction of the Time Axis

Chapter 7: Your Thoughts Precede Your Parents

TAW theory states that your thoughts come before your reality and there is no exception to this rule. Then, what about parents? In conventional psychology, the time axis always points from your parents to you. This only allows you to go as far as forgiving your parents when you have a problem with them, within the domain of traditional psychology. Conventional belief is that you cannot choose your parents and they must exist before you for you to be born. If you are dissatisfied with and resent your parents, all you can do is to forgive their immaturity to remove the resentment.

But this defies TAW theory; how can you say that your thoughts create your reality when you feel like you have no control over the choice of parents. In a way, it is arrogant to say that you forgive them for their immaturity (by regarding yourself superior than them). It is also pretentious and even tragic to sympathize with your parents for your grandparents’ immaturity.
There is no second of time when your thoughts do not manifest in your reality. You may say, “My parents weren’t mature,” and “They weren’t bad. My grandparents are the one to blame.” However, this kind of thinking and these excuses make you as a victim in your own life. It asserts that your birth, which is the very root of your life, has nothing to do with your thoughts. This obscures the law that thoughts create reality. It is necessary to re-grasp the consciousness you had at the start of your life in order to live a full life according to the law.

In TAW theory, the origin of life is your thoughts. Therefore, it is necessary to reverse the direction and perception of the time axis, moving now from you to your parents. It is your thoughts, the origin, that have created your parents. The immaturity of your parents is merely a reflection of the immaturity of your thoughts at the beginning of your consciousness. Don’t you agree that freedom in the truest form is the ability to attribute everything to oneself and be self-contented?

Independence of spirit and mind is true freedom. In order to achieve that, it helps to take a new look at the family relationships in your childhood since it is the basis of your life. This gives you clues to recognize that you have been creating your life exactly according to your wishes and thoughts.

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Thinking and Taking Action Are Same Thing..But Why?

Chapter 6: Thinking and Taking Action Are Same Thing

Since the surface conscious cannot perceive your deep thoughts, it is necessary to use strong, exaggerated words in order to perceive them. For example, in denying somebody and saying, “That person acts wrong,” you need to exaggerate and say instead, “I want to kill that person.”

[Negation/denial (Criticism, Bulling, Attack, etc.) —-> Killing/Murder (Death)]

The exaggeration probably seems too much to you. You may say, “Criticism and murder are completely two different things. I’ve never thought of killing that person.” But this creates a barrier in your mind and prevents you from looking deeper into your mind. When you start to conceal your wicked thoughts because you don’t want to see them, you lose the ability to perceive your true self.
What comes next is that you feel there are external forces such as destiny or fate that control and manipulate your life. Expressing fleeting, almost imperceptible thoughts in strong, exaggerated language helps you to find your honest and true mind.

You remember the example of the young man who lost his mother, in Chapter 4, “Results are purposes.” He may never have wished for her death. However, he must have felt a kind of negation, “I don’t need a mom like her anymore.” “The denial” equates “No need.” Once this thought accumulated enough, it may have lead to the actual death of the person.

Thinking about something equates to taking an action upon it. Denying somebody in mind, even if it is not expressed explicitly, is just as same as saying it aloud. This produces a negative reality. An example is a businessman Mr. A, who is secretly criticizing his boss in his mind every day. His co-worker, Mr. B, brought his own criticism directly to their boss. Still, Mr. A gets bitter treatment from the boss rather than Mr. B, even though Mr. A said nothing and Mr. B was the one who expressed his discontent. Why did this happen when Mr. A was not expressing anything openly?

Here is another example. A boy would steal $10 from his mom’s purse once a month and his older sister would take out a dollar every day. She did not get caught as she only stole $1 at a time. However, the boy did get caught and scolded by his mother because of the larger amount. Who stole more money in this example? You will never know the truth as long as you compare the amounts for only one day. The sister stole more and repaid nothing for it, while the brother had to repay by being reprimanded. She will need to pay back later in a much larger form, which means something much larger or more serious will happen to her to make her pay for her actions.

What matters here is the quantity of thought, not the amount of actions taken. Thoughts create reality, remember? Since one cannot measure the amount of thoughts, which are invisible, he ends up feeling unfairly treated in emerged reality. The truth is, it all depends on how many thoughts he accumulates in his mind.

We all have arbitrary criterion of punishment. It would be simply subjective to dismiss your wicked thoughts, saying, “Oh, this little thought won’t do anything negative. It is so small.” You must not ignore your thinking patterns and your amount of thoughts. You need to start doubting your belief that you do not have negative thoughts, and examine the amount of small negative thoughts you have accumulated.

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Why do people try to become poor?

Chapter 5:

1 % of Thoughts in Surface Conscious might be Enormous in Deep Conscious.

The deep conscious is enormous in quantity. It has different layers of depth. Many people think that one could reach the deepest part of the subconscious by meditation or hypnosis. Yet, the level of the depth touched by meditation is not as deep as the level that can be detected by Fractal psychological methods. When you go into your deep conscious with the guidance of your surface conscious, you will be limited by your surface conscious.

Let’s say that your whole consciousness is an ocean. Meditation and hypnosis is like diving without any gear, so one cannot go too deep (You can go until the level 1 of the deep conscious in the Illustration 2). In order to detect the deeper deep conscious, the analysis of your current reality is a quicker and precise way, because the reality is results of your compounded thoughts. The deepest part of your deep conscious has appeared as your surroundings (at the level of the deep conscious 3 of the Illustration 2).

You may hardly feel the thoughts in your deep conscious with your current surface conscious. However, as you have already learned, the fact that you hardly feel them doesn’t mean that those thoughts don’t exist. In the above ocean analogy, when you find one deep sea fish on the surface, there might be a whole bunch of them in the deep sea.

It is usually the case that when you are frustrated in life, your present reality does not match with your current conscious thoughts. When your thoughts in the surface conscious match with your thoughts in the deep conscious, you feel things are going well and you do not perceive any problems. Your current situation is taken for granted and you don’t think of it. But if, one is in debt despite his wish to make lots of money, for example, that would make him wonder why this has happened and take this situation as problematic.

In this case, if he takes a look into his deep mind, he might find less than one percent of negative thoughts, that nobody acknowledges him despite of all his efforts. If there is one percent of those negative thoughts in the surface conscious, then there exists much more of the same in the level of the deep conscious. The resented self may actually want to receive acknowledgement, attention, and empathy for his efforts rather than making money. Usually, wealthy people do not receive much thoughtfulness or empathy from others.

So, he was unaware of creating his week points, by saying “ In spite of all my efforts, it’s still hard to overcome lots of troubles, I’m not sure I could handle them..,” in order to get thoughtfulness and sympathy from others. That is not straight desire to make debt, but this thought may lead to the actual situation of being in debt.

Therefore, you need to admit that you, knowingly or unknowingly, actually wished for the opposite at the level of the deep conscious if your present conscious reality is different from that.

Whatever your reality may be, it is a manifestation of your thoughts. However, people tend to conceal this fact. In the above example, he hides his desire for sympathy or attention and cannot admit that it was actually the purpose of getting in debt. As he experiences the discrepancy between thoughts and reality, it seems to him that there are exceptions to the rule that thoughts create reality.

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Results Are Purposes

Chapter 4: Results Are Purposes

How can we know what our deep conscious holds? There is no doubt that everyone would like to create a desired reality by knowing what is in our deep conscious. It is actually not difficult to learn this. All you have to do is just observe the reality that you are experiencing now.

Accumulated thoughts that exceed a certain amount will create your reality someday. Whatever you have presently, be it your body, job, family, or environment, is a result of your thoughts in the past. If there is something that you have desired for a long time, but have not realized yet, it means that you actually do not wish for it at the deep conscious level. Or, the desire could be relatively new, so your thoughts have not accumulated enough in the deep domain.

On the other hand, if you are very sad having lost something or someone, that loss is interpreted as no longer necessary for you in the deepest level of your consciousness.
Here is an example; someone lost his mother when he was still young. Applying the rule, “Results are purposes,” it means that he did not need her. On the outer-layer level, he would say that he never wished for his mother’s death. However, the occurrence of the death signifies that he has accumulated enough thoughts that he did not need her. He would not admit this on the surface conscious.

It is impossible to explain all events and circumstances of the present by observing only the surface conscious. This inexplicable part is actually in the domain of the deep conscious. Results are purposes. The results you are having now are what you have wished. Firstly, you must accept what your past thoughts are by observing your present reality, without making any excuses.

Once you understand that thoughts create reality, you can examine your own deep conscious from everything existing in your reality. You’ll be able to gain an ability to acquire new things by concentrating your thoughts on them. You will start realizing that luck and misfortune are a result of your deepest desire, of which you are unaware. It becomes possible to detect unnecessary thoughts that thwart you.

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Thoughts create reality, 100%!

(Continued from chapter 3)
When you fail to acknowledge the law of your thoughts creating your reality, you start to put blame on everything and everybody around you, starting with your parents and siblings, then, blaming your boss, coworkers and other people. By blaming others and relinquishing your own responsibilities, you start feeling that other people and external circumstances control you. Your consciousness fixates on the externals and not on the internals (self). This creates a world where you feel things are beyond your control and such things as destiny and fate exist. It is quite difficult to believe that your gender, your physical body and your birth family are the results of your choices and thoughts. After all, those feelings all stem from the misinterpretation that only the tiniest portion of consciousness is recognized as the entire self.

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Surface consciousis currently experiencing                                                                                                                          ↓                                         ↓ Reality (created by Deep conscious)

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1: Level of psychology (used to be surface conscious)
2: Level of genes
3: Level of monism

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BLAME STEMS FROM OBLIVION

Chapter 3: Blame Stems From Oblivion

When you feel there is a problem in life, you cannot accept your reality. It is when the surface conscious fails to acknowledge the deep conscious. You cannot recognize that your thoughts have created your entire reality.

Nonetheless, your reality, everything that exists in your world, is a complete reflection of your thoughts. Everything is your creation with no exception. There are few people, if any, who fully understand and accept this law. Many feel that this is applicable to certain things but not to every single event, and will start to doubt that law.

This feeling of doubt indeed comes from the fact that you recognize only five percent of your conscious as your entire self. It is just as if you believe that you know the entire iceberg by looking at only its top. Parts of the deep conscious were formerly the surface conscious. Just like the stratum, thoughts get piled up on each other and the surface conscious is pushed down to become the deep conscious. It can be said that the surface conscious is relatively new consciousness and the deep conscious is relatively old. The old consciousness has amounted to a larger quantity and it works on an autopilot mode. People forget in time about the existence of the old, piled up thoughts.

It takes time for thoughts to manifest themselves in reality. Therefore, the current reality is created from the accumulated old thoughts in the domain of the deep conscious that has been long forgotten. This oblivion brings us suffering and affliction. It also makes us to feel there are such things as miracles, mysteries, and acts of god, as we forget that our thoughts have created our realities and we lose control of our lives.

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The World Around You is Your Projection

We are sharing the TAW Fractal psychology, Master Course Program. Today, we are going to study chapter 2.


 

Chapter 2: YOU ARE NOT AWARE OF 95 PERCENT OF YOUR WHOLE CONSCIOUSNESS

What are the “thoughts” when I say that thoughts create reality? To begin with, they mean the workings of whole consciousness. The whole consciousness consists of two parts; the surface conscious and the deep conscious (furthermore, the deep conscious is divided in three parts).

Let me explain this with an example of an iceberg.
As you know, only a small portion of an iceberg is visible above the water and the majority of it is underwater. Sailors must pay attention to the underwater portion for a ship to sail safely. It is potentially dangerous if attention is only given to what is visible.

Let me use this analogy to our minds. The tip of an iceberg is the surface conscious and the underwater part is the deep conscious. Let’s say that the visible part is less than five percent of the iceberg, which is the surface conscious; the rest of it, over 95 percent, is under the water in the realm of the deep conscious.

What does this mean? The existence of self equals the entire iceberg, but one usually recognizes the only visible five percent as the whole self. It means that you can recognize only the tiniest portion of your thoughts, and there is a large part, 95 percent of thoughts that occur automatically, without your awareness. It is not an exaggeration to say that a person’s deep conscious controls his/her life. Just as with an iceberg, it can be truly dangerous if he/she pays attention to only what is visible. The visible part and invisible part coexist as they affect each other.

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Thoughts Create Reality, 100%! This is Monism.

Chapter 1: Thoughts Create Reality, 100%! Without Exception

This world consists of what things? It is made of the energies of thoughts and everything of form including yourself. Thoughts precede phenomena. Your thoughts come in patterns and create your reality. Just as you use certain cookie cutters to make cookies in certain shapes, if you want a cookie in a different shape, you need to change your cookie cutter.
Then, if you think of good things, good events will happen to you. If you think of a disaster, that will occur as well.

It is easy to accept this rule when everything is going well for you. However, we sometimes feel that things are not going as well as we had hoped. Life often seems full of unexpected misfortunes, and you might complain that your dream didn’t come true despite all your positive thoughts and efforts.

Some people have congenital diseases or disabilities and some grew up being abused by their parents. They understandably feel that bad things are happening although they had never wished for them.

Q: Are there exceptions to the rule that thoughts create reality?
A: No. There is no exception. In any and every case, your thoughts come first. All events stem and grow from the seed of your thoughts one hundred percent. Because of that, we can say that every problem has a solution. This will be a better idea than what you have thought so far.

Q: Why can’t we recognize that thoughts create reality one hundred percent?
A: It is because there is a limit on how much our minds can recognize. When we feel there are events that do not follow the law, it means that our minds fail to grasp the smallest thoughts that emerge in our minds. It is not possible to comprehend the micro thoughts when your mind works at a slow speed. Therefore, when something happens, you end up seeing an event and feeling that you have never thought of that event. Even when unrecognizable, this law of thought preceding reality is working.

So, we need to talk about what is “thought,” to begin with. Some people already know “thoughts create reality,” but we can say that they don’t know yet about thoughts exactly. Next time, let’s begin to talk about the thought.


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What do you feel about this world?

Before we get started the lecture of Fractal Psychology, let us see your present standing points (What you are thinking now). Answer the questions below.

[Pre-lecture worksheet]

1. List the negative events that you believe were not caused by your thoughts. Did you experience these events personally? If not, from whom did you learn of these events?

2. How well do you know yourself? What is the percentage? Do you usually think that you know yourself best?

3. List the positive events that you don’t believe you are responsible for in your life? List, if any, the things that you consider the acts of god and spirits, miracles or the blessings of god in your life.

4. What would be the benefits, if any, if you became insolvent and poor?

5.Imagine your phone rings at midnight. Before answering it, what comes to your mind: Is it from your parents or a friend? Could it be work-related? A prank call? Write down what you think it is for and from whom.

6. Which one of these two cases do you think is more aggressive?

a: A daughter who talks back at her father and looks down on him every day.
b: A father who hits his daughter once a year.

7. By whose will is it that you were born? Parents’/God’s/Self’s

8. When you say, “My mother did (or didn’t)…all the time,” how often did the event actually occur? Write down only the details that you clearly remember.

[Example]
“My mother never listened to me.” → How many scenes do you actually
remember of this occurrence in your memories?
My mother always________________________.
How many scenes?___________

Did you answer all the questions?  This is your starting point. Let’s begin the lecture!

By Mau Isshiki

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Monism in Your Life

We’ll share with you Fractal psychology based on monism.

Fractal Psychology Master Course
Fractal Psychology is based on monism. This main program; “Fractal Psychology Master Course” consists of six parts and it takes 19 days if you attend real classes. However, you don’t need to come to the classrooms, and you can learn it at your home by learning on this blogs.
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Introductory Class: “Thoughts Create Reality”

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Preface

Welcome to the Introductory Level of the Fractal Psychology Master Course. I sincerely congratulate you as you stand at the door to the truth of life, ready to embark on this life-changing journey.
“Thoughts create reality, one hundred percent, without exceptions.”

This is the truth of life. This world is made from what you think without any exceptions. It is your thoughts that have created your world.You’ll learn to see your thoughts  and their patterns in the Fractal Psychology Master Course from the Introductory to the Intermediate Levels. It is very important to know this because your thoughts and thinking patterns determine your world.
Life is not “suffering”. There is no destiny and no karma in life. Your thoughts are what shapes your life.Why, then, haven’t you noticed this yet? It is because your consciousness fails to capture the deepest part of the mind. What will happen if you acquire the ability to perceive it? It will be as if you had in your hand a map of your life.
This program will allow you to see the mechanism of how life unfolds. You’ll be able to understand the meaning of your life’s events. You’ll be able to lead a fulfilling life, with meaning and purpose. This is exactly the aim of the program, up to the intermediate level.
In the first three levels of the program, you’ll learn thoroughly how your thoughts manifest in your reality.

Fractal Psychology is based on the premise that the world is made of fractal structures created by your thoughts. Some of you may know that you are the creators of your own lives. Are you, really? It is usually the case that you are not able to apply it fully in reality. Why not, then?
It is because people fail to understand this rule in a true sense. Many people entertain the idea of positive thinking and do not apply the method to their own situations. Sometimes it is difficult to believe this law, that thoughts create reality one hundred percent, and you find yourself wanting to refute it. There are circumstances that do not seem to fit the bill, such as accidents, disasters, diseases, congenital disabilities or unfortunate environments.

If you treat these as exceptions to the rule, you will feel that things like destiny, fate or unrealized wishes exist. You will say, “How can I be responsible for all this?”
If you make an exception, the law does not stand as such, and you cannot use it.

It may be scary to know that you create everything in your life, whatever it may be. However, it is the purpose of this program to enjoy exploring and learning the rule.

The experiences of others are perceived and defined by an observer that is you. The observer is the one that gives meaning to them: “She is happy,“ or “ He is unlucky.” In other words, you define and determine fortunes and misfortunes of the world. Nothing is more important than to examine your thinking first.

We will start by investigating what you are thinking and knowing the patterns of your
thoughts. You will start noticing that things go well in your life once you liberate your mind and thoughts. You CAN create the life you wish to create.
Let us begin the journey!

By Mau Isshiki

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You Are Writing Your Scenario

Chapter 10 You Are Writing Your Scenario

If your thoughts are materialized, the world which you perceive should be the materialization of your thoughts. How wide is the range of your materialization? The world is the projection of your thoughts. Everything you perceive is the materialization of all your thoughts.
In conventional psychology, they say there is a system of projection (transference). Some people project their thoughts about their parents onto others. Psychologists believe that when those people do not project their belief onto others, those others will exhibit their own original personalities. However, if that is the case, we need to admit that there is an exception in “Thoughts Create Reality, 100%.” We, Fractal Psychologists, do not think in such a way. We believe that we cannot see any personality which is not projected. This means everything we see is the projection of our thoughts, in 360 degrees. We call it “Perfect Projection World.”

Imagine it as a movie in order to understand it more. We explain inner world (thoughts) and outer world (phenomena) as the relationship between a film and a movie screen. The lights which create the image is the energy of this world. The lights project through the film, and create images on the screen. This is the World. The film is situated in your mind, so you cannot create something which you do not have in your mind. You certainly wrote your scenario. How the story goes depends on your scenario. If you really understand “Thoughts Create Reality,” you will find you cannot experience anything which you did not write on your scenario.

Q1. You watched the following movies. Which movie intrigues you?

1. A movie of a man who has been raised in a mediocre family succeeds in obtaining fabulous glory, utilizing an innate special talent.

2. A movie of a man who has been bullied for many years by his step mother after his mother died, succeeds in obtaining fabulous glory, utilizing an innate special talent.

Q2. If you are a woman, which man from the two movies above do you think you marry?
If you are thinking to become friends with one of them, which man would you choose?

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Only Child Likes Monopoly

5. Characteristics of the Only Child

The only child has the characteristics of both the Eldest Child and the Youngest Child. S/he is the only child of his/her parents, so they raise him/her very carefully and attentively. S/he receives only the best in everything. S/he acquires material things as much as the Eldest Child, and is protected as much as the Youngest Child. Having eliminated siblings, s/he can monopolize material possessions and protection. So, s/he is not good at sharing things with others. S/he tends to be laid back since things come to him/her without competition. S/he is inclined to perceive others as very greedy and competitive.

S/he does not have status and retainers, and does not have the same responsibilities as the Eldest Child. Since s/he is the only child surrounded by adults, s/he receives an enormous amount of attention. S/he takes it for granted that adults are there to serve him/her. S/he seeks absolute protection. In exchange for this protection, s/he has no freedom as his/her parents meddle with his/her business on all fronts. The image of the only child is that of the heir to the throne, living in a tower. Everybody guards him/her so carefully, lest something would happen to him/her. S/he has good relationships with elder people, but s/he cannot build good relationships with boys and girls his/her age. Yet, he allows him/her to focus on what s/he wants to do.

The only child is more timid than the Youngest Child. S/he tends to keep his/her parents’ attention by talking to them as much as s/he likes. More than the Eldest Child, s/he is secretary preoccupied with monetary assets. Because s/he wanted to monopolize his/her parents, s/he has no siblings, and that makes him/her more worried about the future as s/he grows. S/he cannot get rid of the fear that may happen when his/her parents die. Because of this fear and these worries, s/he has an inclination to accumulate wealth for his/her peace of mind. S/he likes savings money more than other children do. S/he has trouble understanding other people’s feelings because s/he did not have other siblings. S/he often feels as if s/he is an outsider.
Main characteristics:

A: S/he is not good at relationships. S/he has trouble understanding others and him/herself.
B: S/he is relaxed and less competitive. S/he is a pacifist.
C: S/he has a strong desire for money, but s/he is unaware of it because s/he desires it automatically and normally, and everything had come to him/her without competition or strong effort. S/he feels other people are more greedy than him/her.
D: S/he feels strong jealousy towards others when they have something that s/he wants.
E: S/he feels superior to people his/her age, because s/he grew up around people older than him/her.
F: S/he always carries a sense of loneliness.
G: S/he is very timid and does not want to venture out of his/her comfort zone. S/he has more fear as s/he grows older.
H: S/he wants people to do what s/he wants them to do. S/he is selfish.
I: S/he requires perfection from others.
J: S/he does not strive for improving him/herself and tends to maintain the status quo. S/he tends to procrastinate, but once s/he is determined, s/he does not hesitate.

You Can Find Your True Purpose of Life in Your Birth Order

Fractal Psychology Master Course: “Introduction”
The Fundamental Purposes of Life

Chapter 1. The Family Environment as the First Reality That You Created

TAW (Theory on which Fractal Psychology is based) theorizes that life is complete realization of your thoughts. The first thing in your life that you recognized is your family and familial relationships. So, this is your very first creation from your thoughts. Your thoughts precede everything including your parents, siblings and your birth order. Your reality emerged exactly as you had thought. Family is the smallest and first unit of society that you encountered. You learn how to interact with others from birth to the age of six when you live in a small social unit, such as a family. Your thoughts have created your family, and you learn patterns of personal interactions from it. This becomes the foundation of life.

The way you perceive family and your reality is as follows:

Wrong recognition:
“My family environment was _______, so I became _______.”

Correct recognition:
“I had thoughts of _______, which was manifested into my family environment.

“Because my environment had been such, I became _______ more and more.”

What purpose did you have by creating your family environment? It manifests in the order of birth among siblings. Parents treat the eldest, the Middle Child and the youngest differently. This difference can tell you what your initial purpose is at birth, because “Results are Purposes” as we have learned. Why were some born as the eldest, some as the youngest, or some without siblings?
Let us analyze attributes based on birth order.

General Purposes of Life Analyzed by Birth Order:

Eldest Child: status, things, possession, creation
Youngest Child: protection, guidance, love, wisdom, preservation
Middle Child: freedom, independence, innovation, destruction
Only Child: things, possession, protection, monopoly

As shown the above, birth order can tell you much about the purposes of life. Let us explore more in the following lessons (chapters).

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